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$110 the first time around and then like $50 or so on the second date. Both dates had happy endings, and then rejected for the 3rd date. I'm so mad at myself for always doing this. It's my fault though.
$110 the first time around and then like $50 or so on the second date. Both dates had happy endings, and then rejected for the 3rd date. I'm so mad at myself for always doing this. It's my fault though.
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Originally Posted by VTHokieFan
It's just upsetting. You're told all the time to be yourself, but then when you go looking for advice, you're told that you're in the wrong and need to change.
Okay...let's see. $110 on a first date. And you are in college? Is that right?
If so, I just think it's nuts to spend THAT much on a date. And if you are dating the kind of girl (forget the wacko post above about Scotsdale 7 and other silly ratings) ) that expects that sort of date, then stop. There is no reason at ALL to spend money like that, on a date. I don't know why anyone would do this, if they aren't agreeable to throw the money away in the first place. I would never spend a lot of money on a date before I knew a LOT more about the person, and had some idea that we had a solid connection. That said, you don't take someone out, expecting to get laid that night, or the next, for that matter. That's the wrong approach. You need to explore other options for dates...and there are plenty out there.
Like I said, I'm going to take girls who require that I be loaded, especially at age 24, and place them to the side.
I can more than respect a woman wanting a guy who has goals, a good job with very solid finances operating in the black, but expecting $110 for the first date is a bit much. Now this girl didn't expect that at all, I'm blaming myself for being dumb, not blaming her at all.
$100?! Good grief, that's too much to spend on a date, especially when you're just getting to know one another. Save the special restaurants for when there's something special.
go for girls from working class backgrounds who have worked during their youth. They appreciate money more and will be less demanding of your spending.
I"m assuming that you said that you guys had sex on the first and second dates? May I gently suggest that women who have sex that soon are generally not looking for a relationship?
If you think about the costs of things, dropping a $100 buck is easy to do. Even a dinner at a chain restaurant can set you back $40-50 bucks. Add in drinks (which are WAY overpriced at restaurants) and you've easily dropped another $20-30. Then on to a movie, another $20 without snacks.
You can have a nice date without spending so much money. Besides dinner, movie...has become so cliche. Mix it up and try some interesting things that are wallet friendly for you and will result in an all around enjoyable date.
It's going to cost to date. period. However, you are in control of how much you choose to spend. Good luck.
We went out to dinner the first one, and it lasted like 5 hours. We talked the whole time. It ended well....
We went out a second time and just walked around the city for a few hours, went to a bar for a bit. It ended well...
$100 is steep for a first date. $50 is reasonable, but still higher than what is sensible. I just can't figure out how you spent $50 "going to a bar for a bit".
Try something different that is less expensive...cook a meal for two instead of going to a restaurant, maybe there are free events in your area, try engaging in mutual hobbies or try a new activity. You can be smart and frugal without being cheap, good luck.
I"m assuming that you said that you guys had sex on the first and second dates? May I gently suggest that women who have sex that soon are generally not looking for a relationship?
I guess the ellipses looked that way. We actually just made out, but still you'd think that's an invitation for round 3...oh well.
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) that expects that sort of date, then stop. There is no reason at ALL to spend money like that, on a date. I don't know why anyone would do this, if they aren't agreeable to throw the money away in the first place. I would never spend a lot of money on a date before I knew a LOT more about the person, and had some idea that we had a solid connection. That said, you don't take someone out, expecting to get laid that night, or the next, for that matter. That's the wrong approach. You need to explore other options for dates...and there are plenty out there.
