So I married a man who cheated on his 1st wife....... (marriage, women)
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Cheated on her with me, by the way. I was his mistress for over a year until he finally divorced her and married me. He always tells me I'm the love of his life, which is how I feel about him also.
And for those who may say "it will never work out-once a cheater, always a cheater", I'm here to just say that THAT typical response isn't always true. Married 6 blissful years and counting.
Just wanted to let you guys know that a cheater isn't always unfaithful.
Cheated on her with me, by the way. I was his mistress for over a year until he finally divorced her and married me. He always tells me I'm the love of his life, which is how I feel about him also.
And for those who may say "it will never work out-once a cheater, always a cheater", I'm here to just say that THAT typical response isn't always true. Married 6 blissful years and counting.
Just wanted to let you guys know that a cheater isn't always unfaithful.
Gotta say, I agree. People don't like to hear it, but many a cheater is reformed when he meets the love of his life
While I also believe a "cheater" can end up with someone that is a better fit...there is no excuse for cheating. He could have ended the first relationship.
Those guilty of cheating sometimes try to use how "happy" they are as "proof" that what they did was ok........it wasn't.
While I also believe a "cheater" can end up with someone that is a better fit...there is no excuse for cheating. He could have ended the first relationship.
Those guilty of cheating sometimes try to use how "happy" they are as "proof" that what they did was ok........it wasn't.
Agree with you on both counts...
Sometimes a better fit IS needed.
However, it's always better to end one relationship before embarking on another.
The problem is, some people are plodding along in their marriages - not happy, but "settled". They think, hey, there's no fireworks here anymore, but it could be worse so I'll make the best of it.
Then "BOOM", they meet that certain someone and it's like finding a pair of glasses when you didn't even know you needed them. You put those glasses on and the whole world suddenly looks different.
However, it's always better to end one relationship before embarking on another.
The problem is, some people are plodding along in their marriages - not happy, but "settled". They think, hey, there's no fireworks here anymore, but it could be worse so I'll make the best of it.
Then "BOOM", they meet that certain someone and it's like finding a pair of glasses when you didn't even know you needed them. You put those glasses on and the whole world suddenly looks different.
It's trying on the glasses that gets you in trouble!!
However, it's always better to end one relationship before embarking on another.
The problem is, some people are plodding along in their marriages - not happy, but "settled". They think, hey, there's no fireworks here anymore, but it could be worse so I'll make the best of it.
Then "BOOM", they meet that certain someone and it's like finding a pair of glasses when you didn't even know you needed them. You put those glasses on and the whole world suddenly looks different.
I see your point...but having a mistress for a year isn't "boom".
Gotta say, I agree. People don't like to hear it, but many a cheater is reformed when he meets the love of his life
LM I agree with so many of your posts, and think you seem like a great person... except on these subjects we don't agree. While it may pertain some of time, I have to ask you...
Would you feel the same if your husband came home tonight and informed you he was leaving because he found the love of his life?
I know a lot marriages are rocky ones, but I've also known women who thought they had a great marriage (and vice versa), only to have their spouse one day tell they were quite wrong.
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