Being married sucks! (responsible, relation, reasons, regret)
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I find this incredibly condescending. To imply that you need to be married OR have children to lead a fulfilled life is ridiculous. I love being married, and think it's great--but I would never tell someone that they won't be happy long term if they don't get married. Who am I to tell someone else what will make them happy?
You will live a wonderful and fulfilling life if you follow your passions and love those around you, whoever they are. Spouse and children are not a prerequisite to happiness and fulfillment. Nor are they a guarantee.
I find this incredibly condescending. To imply that you need to be married OR have children to lead a fulfilled life is ridiculous. I love being married, and think it's great--but I would never tell someone that they won't be happy long term if they don't get married. Who am I to tell someone else what will make them happy?
You will live a wonderful and fulfilling life if you follow your passions and love those around you, whoever they are. Spouse and children are not a prerequisite to happiness and fulfillment. Nor are they a guarantee.
You're right on here. The condescension is coming from all these posters trying to project their opinions with no consideration for differences in preferences. Live and let live I say!
Yep, you said it. It's totally condescending and I sometimes wonder why people do that.
Why do people start threads about marriage sucking? Or why do people try to put down people who want children or people who live with people before they get married?
I belive some people market marriage in that way because they want to trick a single person into their miserable life.
Look - marriage isn't for everyone. And yes - some marriages suck and end in divorce. On the other hand - when you find the right person - marriage (or any truly committed relationship) enhances your life and makes everything better. I'm happier just having my husband in the same room as me. If you've never experienced this - it's something that you won't be able to understand. That isn't meant to be condescending at all. It's sort of like - how can you imagine how relaxing a great massage can be if you've never had one? How can you imagine what the best food tastes like if you've never had it? If I had never met my husband and was still single - could I have had a happy life? Sure! Is my life a million times better because of him? Yes. Would I tell someone to get married simply to get married? HELL NO!!! Getting married just for the sake of getting married is a recipe for disaster. When you meet the right person - you'll WANT to marry them. You won't be able to imagine your life with out them. Until you get to that point - there is no point in even thinking about getting married. And if you never meet that person - well, I guess marriage just isn't in the cards for you.
Because it's taboo in western culture to talk about marriage in a bad way openly. This (online) is the only place where you can do it.
That's not true. I have friends that have been divorced and have sworn off marriage. I don't blame them. They also don't put down all married people or say that all marriages suck. They simply have come to the realization that it wasn't for them. Some of them are currently in long term relationships - and they are perfectly happy. I also know couples that have been living together for over 20 or 30 years that don't feel a need to get married. It's not a big deal. They aren't raging against married people or marriage - it just wasn't for them.
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