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So it's actuallly the other way around, its for the mans own good not to pursue women with more money.
What you really haven't explained at all is your fixation on the income of two potential partners. Who cares who makes the most money? You're leaving out the really important concerns such as personality, compatability, what things you have in common, etc. Income and tax brackets aren't particularly important in the overall scheme of things concerning relationships.
If you're going to be old-fashioned, be old-fashioned all the way. At the same time, you have to get with the times. Look, if a woman is interested in me then she has to make the first move. If I'm interested in her, I'll do work. Doesn't matter who makes the most money, just how they manage it. It's not that hard.
What is this obsession with being old fashioned - and having to be either completely old fashioned or not at all? I just don't get it! Since when did this become a rule?
There are ways in which I'm old fashioned. For me, personally, I did not want to have children out of wedlock. I wanted to be married first. I don't care what others do - and for gay people in most states - this is impossible so obviously that point is moot with them anyway. But for me - I wanted to be married before I started a family. Also - being married is important to me. Not that I had to get married just to get married - but I knew when I found the right one, that I would not be satisfied simply being in a committed relationship. Once again - different strokes for different folks - but this is what is right for me. These are more old fashioned ideas. However, I would never marrry someone with out sleeping with them first. I also lived with my husband for awhile before we got married. These are not old fashioned ideas.
Do I like being the one pursued as opposed to being the pursuer? Yes. This isn't because I'm old fashioned or a woman - this is simply because I like being pursued. Doesn't everyone like being pursued? Have I been the pursuer before? Yes.
Who the hell decided that people have to be old fashioned in every way or in no way? The thought police?
Men also like to be the providers, and are the traditional bread winners. Men traditonally earns more money.
In what way is a relationship where the man chases a more succesfull woman balanced? It's to much of a disadvantage for the man.
So, I should try not to be successful because it might make some man feel bad about himself? What a weak person a man like that would be. A real man would think to himself...wow, more money means more for both of us.
So, I should try not to be successful because it might make some man feel bad about himself? What a weak person a man like that would be. A real man would think to himself...wow, more money means more for both of us.
Not at all. It just means men who are more succesful than you will have to chase you.
Women who want men with less money to pursue them are just looking to have all the power in the relatonship, women like that want the relationship to be one sided in their favor. Thats a red flag.
Not at all. It just means men who are more succesful than you will have to chase you.
Women who want men with less money to pursue them are just looking to have all the power in the relatonship, women like that want the relationship to be one sided in their favor. Thats a red flag.
I am sure that you know all women and their motivation for their actions. I, however, do not presume to know what anyone thinks other than myself. I judge people on who they are, not by what amount of money they have or by the possessions they own. A red flag is a man who would worry about power in the relationship.
I am sure that you know all women and their motivation for their actions. I, however, do not presume to know what anyone thinks other than myself. I judge people on who they are, not by what amount of money they have or by the possessions they own. A red flag is a man who would worry about power in the relationship.
You say that... But like I said to another poster... I'd bet a horse that if a woman pursued a man with more money than her, you would defenitley think thats unfair and unbalanced and that the man has the upper hand in the relationship.
Note, I only use women pursuing men examples for arguements sake. I dont really think women should pursue men.
Not at all. It just means men who are more succesful than you will have to chase you.
Women who want men with less money to pursue them are just looking to have all the power in the relatonship, women like that want the relationship to be one sided in their favor. Thats a red flag.
Why can't women understand this simple concept?
It's not even sexist.
The person with more money does the chasing.
A simple concept that cannot be accepted.
No, it won't make a guy feel bad about himself.
But, let them claim ambition and a salary, while they sit in their office hoping a guy comes along.
It's sexist to think a man should be the one to take the reins of a relationship all the time.
I don't see how ambitious women can't do like Michelle Obama and go for the man they want.
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