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My wife informed me that she doesn't want to be married anymore. She is in school full time at the moment, until September. I'm commited to her finishing school, because I do still love her and it is better for the kids if she finishes.
We are past the date to terminate our lease, so we have the house for another year.
I don't see any reason why the divorce won't be amicable, she's just not in love anymore.
Anyone with relevant experience have any thoughts/suggestions?
Don't have any relevant experience, just a few thoughts on your situation.
It certainly could give your kids false hope, and it may give YOU false hope also thinking there is still a chance you will get back together.
And if your soon to be ex wants to go out on a date, that won't hurt you? Also, there's a possibility she may use you, knowing you really don't want a divorce.
The kids don't know yet. They won't know until much closer until it is time to move.
I have no false hope. She made it clear and I respect her need to be happy.
There isn't anything she could use me for. I've been the bread winner for the majority of our relationship and I'm ok with that until she finishes school and is employed. At that point we will separate our finances.
If she wants to date, that's ok. We will be divorced, after all.
The kids don't know yet. They won't know until much closer until it is time to move.
I have no false hope. She made it clear and I respect her need to be happy.
There isn't anything she could use me for. I've been the bread winner for the majority of our relationship and I'm ok with that until she finishes school and is employed. At that point we will separate our finances.
If she wants to date, that's ok. We will be divorced, after all.
Falling in love is just a chemical reaction in your brain. She does realize that it doesn't last forever right?
Certainly there has been more of this going on with the economy. Both of you sound mature about it. Though it can be worth it to seek counseling and try to "fix" things. Of course, you got to want to do that first.
Good Luck to both of you and your children. Use whatever comes your way to improve who you are.
There isn't anything she could use me for. I've been the bread winner for the majority of our relationship and I'm ok with that until she finishes school and is employed. At that point we will separate our finances.
IMO one of you needs to move out and establish your own residency. The sooner the better for all involved. Confusion for the children if she is dating and such.
My wife informed me that she doesn't want to be married anymore. She is in school full time at the moment, until September. I'm commited to her finishing school, because I do still love her and it is better for the kids if she finishes.
We are past the date to terminate our lease, so we have the house for another year.
I don't see any reason why the divorce won't be amicable, she's just not in love anymore.
Anyone with relevant experience have any thoughts/suggestions?
I know a couple who did this successfully.
It was purely a financial decision and they had a set date of when it would come to an end, which I think was key.
They agreed not to bring any new folks or dates around the old homefront and kept up a good attitude with one another for their kids.
At the end of the time frame they had established, their financial house was in better order and he moved out to his own place.
In addition, I think it served as a good transitioning period for their kids. Dad and mom weren't sharing a bedroom or spending any lovey dovey time together and the kids gradually came to see that although they were not a couple any more, they were still their parents - which gave the kids the comfort and stability that matters most to kids.
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