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I choose to live with my girlfriend. We plan on getting married and some of our friends and family don't like the idea of people living together before marriage.
Is it better to live together or not to live together? I've known several people who lived together before marrying and they happy happy marriages. I have also known multiple couples who waited till they tied the knot to move in together and their marriage failed.
Save the religious rhetoric. I see no rational reason to wait until marriage to move in with a spouse.
But I could be wrong. I waited until marriage to move in with my ex-wife, and we ended in divorce.
I choose to live with my girlfriend. We plan on getting married and some of our friends and family don't like the idea of people living together before marriage.
Is it better to live together or not to live together? I've known several people who lived together before marrying and they happy happy marriages. I have also known multiple couples who waited till they tied the knot to move in together and their marriage failed.
Save the religious rhetoric. I see no rational reason to wait until marriage to move in with a spouse.
But I could be wrong. I waited until marriage to move in with my ex-wife, and we ended in divorce.
SO my question is?
Do you live together first?
Or Wait until marriage?
How old are you? 12? Don't worry about what other people do or think or believe about this. Do what the two of YOU want to do.
I say live with them first!!!! My brothers did and therefore no surprises. My aunt did and a friend. If you can handle it then it's worth moving on with that person.
Almost universally... it will be better to have that understanding of this other evolved and self sufficient adult before making permanent and legal commitment beyond an apt lease.
Oh? they aren't evolved and self sufficient adults?
Then they shouldn't be getting married.
I choose to live with my girlfriend. We plan on getting married and some of our friends and family don't like the idea of people living together before marriage.
Is it better to live together or not to live together? I've known several people who lived together before marrying and they happy happy marriages. I have also known multiple couples who waited till they tied the knot to move in together and their marriage failed.
Save the religious rhetoric. I see no rational reason to wait until marriage to move in with a spouse.
But I could be wrong. I waited until marriage to move in with my ex-wife, and we ended in divorce.
SO my question is?
Do you live together first?
Or Wait until marriage?
Here's an idea: Don't get married! That way when it goes bad, you can end that with a moving van, not lawyers, filing fees and a moving van.
I think cohabitation is great. My husband and I lived together as soon as we got engaged. If things would have soured, it was easier to call off a wedding than filing for divorce.
Both of us are Roman Catholics, so while my grandparents were against it, they had no say in it. I know some friends who didnt live together until after their honeymoon and their marriages didnt fare so well.
I lived with my SO for 6 years before we married...and that was 37 years ago...still going strong...I think it's a much better way of going about it simply for the fact that it gives you some time to see if you're compatible or not...before you go spend money and time on a wedding.
I say live with them first!!!! My brothers did and therefore no surprises. My aunt did and a friend. If you can handle it then it's worth moving on with that person.
Well now(hey now), let's us look at some statictics, shall we??
More than 8 out of 10 couples who live together will break up either before the wedding or afterwards in diivorce.
About 45% of those who begin cohabiting, do not marry.
Couples who do marry after living together are 50% more likely to divorce than those who did not.
Only 12% of couples who have begun their relationship with cohabitation end up with a marriage lasting 10 or more years.
it weakened and discourages the bonding needed for permanent marriage contracts. stats available supporting this statement.
however dont ask me my opinion of marriage--- it is not very positive either. i think marriage is in big trouble. the marital industrial complex has about run its course.
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