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So i ended up running into a girl that I use to date in college a few months ago and we ended the conversation with that maybe we would meet up in the city. Anyway the day after she writes on my fb wall saying great running into you let me know next time your in the city. So a few times after that on random weekends I tried to meet up with her but she was busy and seemed rather flaky so I said screw it I'm not gonna put in any effort and decided to not contact her. A month and a half goes by and I get a message on facebook again saying I havent talked to you in a while how's your summer going let me know when your around again. So I'm wondering if she is just trying to play games with me or if she just craves the attention and because I stopped talking to her, she messaged me to gauge my interest again.
You were too desperate and allowed her to flake on you multiple times and didn't learn the lesson. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
So i ended up running into a girl that I use to date in college a few months ago and we ended the conversation with that maybe we would meet up in the city. Anyway the day after she writes on my fb wall saying great running into you let me know next time your in the city. So a few times after that on random weekends I tried to meet up with her but she was busy and seemed rather flaky so I said screw it I'm not gonna put in any effort and decided to not contact her. A month and a half goes by and I get a message on facebook again saying I havent talked to you in a while how's your summer going let me know when your around again. So I'm wondering if she is just trying to play games with me or if she just craves the attention and because I stopped talking to her, she messaged me to gauge my interest again.
Those are definitely two of the possibilities.
If you're not going to put in any effort, then why spend the energy wondering about her motives? Treat her like a neighbor you're friendly with--you make small talk with if you see each other, and forget about when you don't.
Give it a little time, and her signals will get clearer one way or the other.
If you're not going to put in any effort, then why spend the energy wondering about her motives? Treat her like a neighbor you're friendly with--you make small talk with if you see each other, and forget about when you don't.
Give it a little time, and her signals will get clearer one way or the other.
well i did, i didnt say anything to her for a month a half and then she initiated the contact again. And I dont think i came off desperate. I didnt go into the city soley to see her, it was more of me being there and seeing what she was up to.
possibly, i think i was just more confused about her interest level because it wasnt like well why dont we try and meet up on such and such day. So thats why I just completely ignored her and probably would have continued to until the fact that she messaged me again.
If you're confused it means she's not interested. Period. A girl who is interested will go out of her way for you, this one didn't. Do I know what women want or think? Hell no, but I understand this simple fact of human psychology. Why do so many dudes not get it?
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