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I met this guy 3 months ago through work. I know he is exactly my dream man, and found so many similarities in our backgrounds. After that, he had texted me every the other 3 days at nights. We are both investment bankers, so I assume he also gets off work late and has to contact me late too.
The text message thing went on for like a month and he never asked me out. Until one day, I asked him out for a coffee and he accepted. The date went well and we had some really good conversations. After the 1st date, the “every 3 day text messages” continued for another month, and I initiated a lunch together. Again, the lunch went well. (I have to mention here that our companies locate 15 minutes away from each other by walking
The 3rd date, which was also brought up by me, we went together for dinner and then a bar later. Everything turned out so great. We had our 1st kiss and held hands. But weird enough, no calls or texts for the following week. Two weeks ago, it was his birthday. I texted him to let him know that I would like to treat him a birthday dinner since he had paid for all the previous bills. That night, we became intimate.
After that 1st time, I thought I could at least expect a call. But no, no nothing from him for like 3 days until I asked. He texted back saying He “felt really sorry and guilty for what he did that night.” He said “it is good to be friends and wanna go slow. He asked me out for the 1st time to explain things. He said meet-ups are fine, but intimacy is too early for right now.
So am I dumped or played? Or there is still hope since he wants to go slow? So guys, what is really the deal here? I think I already fell for him. Help!
(c) He's been burned before and is a little uncertain
(d) He's got a few early stage relationships on the go and hasn't become exclusive with them
(e) He's married.
There are others, but we could be here all day.
Simple answer, if you don't like the way he treats you, move on.
If he doesn't create a good impression after a couple of dates, then why would you want to stick with him ?
I met this guy 3 months ago through work. I know he is exactly my dream man, and found so many similarities in our backgrounds. After that, he had texted me every the other 3 days at nights. We are both investment bankers, so I assume he also gets off work late and has to contact me late too.
The text message thing went on for like a month and he never asked me out. Until one day, I asked him out for a coffee and he accepted. The date went well and we had some really good conversations. After the 1st date, the “every 3 day text messages” continued for another month, and I initiated a lunch together. Again, the lunch went well. (I have to mention here that our companies locate 15 minutes away from each other by walking
The 3rd date, which was also brought up by me, we went together for dinner and then a bar later. Everything turned out so great. We had our 1st kiss and held hands. But weird enough, no calls or texts for the following week. Two weeks ago, it was his birthday. I texted him to let him know that I would like to treat him a birthday dinner since he had paid for all the previous bills. That night, we became intimate.
After that 1st time, I thought I could at least expect a call. But no, no nothing from him for like 3 days until I asked. He texted back saying He “felt really sorry and guilty for what he did that night.” He said “it is good to be friends and wanna go slow. He asked me out for the 1st time to explain things. He said meet-ups are fine, but intimacy is too early for right now.
So am I dumped or played? Or there is still hope since he wants to go slow? So guys, what is really the deal here? I think I already fell for him. Help!
He is wanting to go slow, no intimacy. No, you aren't being used. He is saving you from being used. Slow down. Keep it at friends level. Believe it or not, there really are ppl w/ values. So, you would be better off slowing down. Or finding someone that wants to go faster. Leave this guy alone, if you can't appreciate his values. You are the type Gal I want my Son's too avoid. Too pushy.
I met this guy 3 months ago through work. I know he is exactly my dream man, and found so many similarities in our backgrounds. After that, he had texted me every the other 3 days at nights. We are both investment bankers, so I assume he also gets off work late and has to contact me late too.
The text message thing went on for like a month and he never asked me out. Until one day, I asked him out for a coffee and he accepted. The date went well and we had some really good conversations. After the 1st date, the “every 3 day text messages” continued for another month, and I initiated a lunch together. Again, the lunch went well. (I have to mention here that our companies locate 15 minutes away from each other by walking
The 3rd date, which was also brought up by me, we went together for dinner and then a bar later. Everything turned out so great. We had our 1st kiss and held hands. But weird enough, no calls or texts for the following week. Two weeks ago, it was his birthday. I texted him to let him know that I would like to treat him a birthday dinner since he had paid for all the previous bills. That night, we became intimate.
After that 1st time, I thought I could at least expect a call. But no, no nothing from him for like 3 days until I asked. He texted back saying He “felt really sorry and guilty for what he did that night.” He said “it is good to be friends and wanna go slow. He asked me out for the 1st time to explain things. He said meet-ups are fine, but intimacy is too early for right now.
So am I dumped or played? Or there is still hope since he wants to go slow? So guys, what is really the deal here? I think I already fell for him. Help!
what should i do next? leave him alone for 2 weeks and see if he contacts him? what if he doesn't, should i initiate it? as i do hear successful stories in which girls do the leading.
what should i do next? leave him alone for 2 weeks and see if he contacts him? what if he doesn't, should i initiate it? as i do hear successful stories in which girls do the leading.
From the sounds of it, you have been doing the "leading."
Its his turn. He wants to take it slow...course, he should have told you that before he decided to spend the night with you.
He knows how to contact you if he wants to see you. I'd move on, he is not that interested in you, you are probably his side venture.
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