Communication when dating-Text or Call (married, girl, love, single)
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What are your thoughts? When is texting appropriate and when does interaction warrant a phone call?
I've known people who will try to have an entire conversation with you by text and I find it annoying. So if we're texting back and forth within minutes of each other; then I call you so I don't type all night long; you don't pick up the phone. Now I get sometimes people are in a crowded place and/or doing other things but some people refuse to talk but will text forever. I'm like if you want to talk without feedback (i.e. texting) then just don't text at all. I have people text me:"Are you mad at me? I don't hear from you." That's because if you want a conversation you need to pick up the phone.
On the flip side of that I have hug out with people who are texting quick messages at the table and I'm like.....are you doing the same thing when you text me sometimes? Interesting.
Texting = Transcript
I know age is a factor because most older people don't text -they call.
Phone call - Guy asking girl out on a date.
Text - After you are married and need to pick up stuff from the grocery store. i.e. "Do we have milk at home?"
Phone call - Guy asking girl out on a date.
Text - After you are married and need to pick up stuff from the grocery store. i.e. "Do we have milk at home?"
I agree. I think texts can be fine in limited-use situations, like if you're in a meeting and unable to talk, or whatever. But if the point of early courtship is to cultivate interest from the person you're courting, I think a phone call is a far more effective tool for building that personal connection. A string of texts rather than the personal connection of a call, or better yet, a date, doesn't do much. Now, if you're a surgeon and your only chance to contact your potential date is between surgeries at 3 AM, maybe a text is the best option. But in general, I think you have a better chance of success waiting a few hours until you can place a proper call, or else making sure that texts are just used as a sort of "snack" throughout the day rather than a real meal and that quality time is reserved for real conversations. Using texts as a substitution for quality time in phone calls may backfire.
I agree. I think texts can be fine in limited-use situations, like if you're in a meeting and unable to talk, or whatever. But if the point of early courtship is to cultivate interest from the person you're courting, I think a phone call is a far more effective tool for building that personal connection. A string of texts rather than the personal connection of a call, or better yet, a date, doesn't do much. Now, if you're a surgeon and your only chance to contact your potential date is between surgeries at 3 AM, maybe a text is the best option. But in general, I think you have a better chance of success waiting a few hours until you can place a proper call, or else making sure that texts are just used as a sort of "snack" throughout the day rather than a real meal and that quality time is reserved for real conversations. Using texts as a substitution for quality time in phone calls may backfire.
Yes, dont you want to hear his/her voice? What about sweet nothings... can not imagine that very romantic in a text.
I figure if you're getting to know eachother, then a phone call is warranted. People in my age group (25-34) text more than they call. I love to text but, having whole conversations via that method is plain lazy. No one is that busy not to pick up a phone.. especially when most cell plans have unlimited talk. Btw, if they are only communicating with you by text, they're hiding from you. And noone should break up via text.
Last edited by relocatingdiva79; 08-13-2011 at 02:50 PM..
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Interesting thread. I met a guy at a restaurant this past weekend and, after chatting for a bit, he asked for my number and I gave it. He has been texting me since we met. I told him that I am not much of a texter and prefer phone and meeting in person. He still continued to text. Not a single phone call. I have pretty lost interest and will just ignore his messages.
There's something suspiciuous about a guy who only communicates by text and will not pick up the phone. I don't know but it seems like he might be hiding something.
Interesting thread. I met a guy at a restaurant this past weekend and, after chatting for a bit, he asked for my number and I gave it. He has been texting me since we met. I told him that I am not much of a texter and prefer phone and meeting in person. He still continued to text. Not a single phone call. I have pretty lost interest and will just ignore his messages.
There's something suspiciuous about a guy who only communicates by text and will not pick up the phone. I don't know but it seems like he might be hiding something.
Its either that or he has a 300 anytime minutes plan like my grand mother and is trying to save it for emergencies
Its either that or he has a 300 anytime minutes plan like my grand mother and is trying to save it for emergencies
That's not the call to save on!
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and is trying to save it for emergencies 
