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I'm not envious, I just want to know their secret to making it work. I fixed up two couples in my time. Both of them have been happily married for close to 20 years now. If I can do it for my friends, why the heck can't I do it for myself?
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No. I don't know that anyone has the perfect relationship. I know a married man who says their friends say that about them--You guys have the perfect relationship. He says he just laughs inside because after they part company, he and his wife go home to their house. Not home. House. Where they sleep in separate bedrooms and live their own lives outside an occasional dinner with friends. So much for perfect. He told one friend besides me they have separate bedrooms and she was livid. Can't say I blame her but then, why the facade?
I'm not envious, I just want to know their secret to making it work. I fixed up two couples in my time. Both of them have been happily married for close to 20 years now. If I can do it for my friends, why the heck can't I do it for myself?
It's easier to objectively assess the needs and personality of other people rather than yourself.
While there aren't any "perfect" relationships, the ones that appear to be quite healthy and happy are more encouraging than anything. I enjoy seeing very compatible couples who are respectful and happy with one another, and thoroughly in love. It serves as evidence that it is possible in a time when divorce rates are at their highest.
I'm not envious, I just want to know their secret to making it work. I fixed up two couples in my time. Both of them have been happily married for close to 20 years now. If I can do it for my friends, why the heck can't I do it for myself?
It's about finding the right person who wants to put work into the relationship.
If you see a truly happy couple, you do not see what they do to each other behind closed doors. Not necessarily sexual related.
I know a few of my friends (emphasis on FEW as I know many who are content in their marriage but do not have an AMAZING marriage..there is a difference) who have the absolute PERFECT love story... met their soulmate when they were 15 in high school, dated for many years and only got crazier about each other, married in early 20s and now after 15 years of marriage still seem to be absolutely crazy about each other.
I used to think this kind of thing only exists in fairytale books but yet here they are. In my view it is the ideal that most people want but seems so elusive.
Do you have friends like this? If so, are you envious of their amazing luck? Do you think this is just pure luck or is there anything more to it? If you're in your 30s or later and have a checkered relationship past do you attribute it to just bad luck or mistakes that you made?
No, I am not envious. Envious people don't know what it takes to have successful relationships, or that it even takes something to have them.
I think the only luck I see here is that the lovers found each other amongst the envious people.
Well, 3 pages of this and no one is ever envious? Not to call anyone here a liar, but given the amount of envy that one sees in real life (in many aspects, not just love) I honestly doubt the situation is as idyllic as shown in this thread ...
I'm gonna be braver and admit that yes, I sometimes am envious. As we know, sometimes life can be quite unfair and people who did nothing for it just "come across" that what you have been years wanting.
It's been quite better recently, since I have learned to accept the situation and just let life come as it is. But I won't lie: even now, sometimes I wish I could have what some people have.
Well, 3 pages of this and no one is ever envy? Not to call anyone here a liar, but given the amount of envy that one sees in real life (in many aspects, not just love) I honestly doubt the situation is as idyllic as shown in this thread ...
I'm gonna be braver and admit that yes, I sometimes am envious. As we know, sometimes life can be quite unfair and people who did nothing for it just "come across" that what you have been years wanting.
It's been quite better recently, since I have learned to accept the situation and just let life come as it is. But I won't lie: even now, sometimes I wish I could have what some people have.
That doesn't necessarily make a person envious.
I am not resentful toward people for what they have. I compliment them.
I'm not envious, I just want to know their secret to making it work. I fixed up two couples in my time. Both of them have been happily married for close to 20 years now. If I can do it for my friends, why the heck can't I do it for myself?
I used to look for a secret, too, and I think I may have found it. They don't rely on good luck, they make their good luck, at least what is in their power to make. They set themselves up for success.
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