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Of course! I don't think people realize just how much personality and familiarity affect attraction. I've even thought some women were attractive at first but then changed my mind when I learned more about them. And it wasn't really a conscious decision either (as in, "Man, she's hot, but I shouldn't get with her because..."). It was a genuine turn-off
Of course! I don't think people realize just how much personality and familiarity affect attraction. I've even thought some women were attractive at first but then changed my mind when I learned more about them. And it wasn't really a conscious decision either (as in, "Man, she's hot, but I shouldn't get with her because..."). It was a genuine turn-off
I have had that happen to me, but not the other way around.
Absolutely happens all the time and is no different than meeting a girl who seems super attractive at first, but the more you know her, the less attractive she gets. I guess all it really means, is that you are getting to know this girl and associate her other traits to her physical beauty. Its actually a really fascinating topic IMO. THe beauty truly IS in the eye of the beholder.
no, i think attraction grows if their personality is good, but i've never experiened a girl that I wasnt physically attracted to become more attractive to me. im not sure if we are talking looks or personality. Give me personality and some looks over totally one or the other
There's a distinction between a sort of short-term initial, immediate attraction and the sort of long-term attraction that comes with getting to know a person, and long-term bonding, etc. but the distinction seems to be lost sometimes on some people.
"Love at first sight", as the cliche describes, is an idealized case where the initial attraction matches perfectly with later attraction ie. "from the exact moment we met and I gazed into his/her eyes and he/she gazed into mine, we knew we were meant for one another, and grow old together blah blah....
But very often, reality doesn't work like that. People could be totally "mad with love" in the short term, initial type of attraction and then grow to hate the person in the longer run, or on the other hand, end up after a period of time, falling for someone they hated to begin with.
People differ in how quickly they can get attracted to a person, whether they are attracted sexually, emotionally, both or only attracted but don't feel attached etc.
It's all pretty complicated, and the fact that we often use the same words (love, romance, sexual attaction, attachment etc.) to paint many types of attraction with a broad brush, whether long term or short, ends up making it more confusing to talk about across people with different experiences, preferences and desires.
I wouldn't really know, I think I did once before....but I just denied/ignored it. Reason being , cuz I'm a shallow pr*k.
I've seen much flak thrown at my friend's gf got (from me and my other friends who were also his friend) behind his &her backs (about her attractiveness), so that would make me super conscious, and also a factor into my thinking/choice/attraction.
Nope. I know in 2 seconds and it never changes. However, if you're talking over many years when your entire taste range has changed, then sure. But then it's too late.
I wouldn't really know, I think I did once before....but I just denied/ignored it. Reason being , cuz I'm a shallow pr*k.
I've seen much flak thrown at my friend's gf got (from me and my other friends who were also his friend) behind his &her backs (about her attractiveness), so that would make me super conscious, and also a factor into my thinking/choice/attraction.
Well I have met women who was maybe a 5 and just below what I'd consider, and then made some changes and became a 6 and I started to think of the possibility, but there haven't been any magic turn-arounds happening.
It's mostly women who start out looking good that goes the other direction...
Hot women can become unnatractive through bad personality, but unnattractive women just wont cut it regardless of personality, they become female friends instead...
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