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My heart nearly broke when my woman told me not not to buy her clothes because she said, " I gained some weight and am self-conscious about it." How should a boyfriend reply? It has to be one of the most common, and worst situations to be in.
My heart nearly broke when my woman told me not not to buy her clothes because she said, " I gained some weight and am self-conscious about it." How should a boyfriend reply? It has to be one of the most common, and worst situations to be in.
Quickly ask her what she would like instead of clothing.Don't get into her pity party. If you say, "Oh, you don't look like you gained weight," she may get started with how "you're just being nice to me; I'm fat!" This is just her trying to start a pity party and drag you into it.
Buy her something else and for the love of God don't go there. Weight is a very emotional thing for us women.
Two questions... Do YOU think she has put on weight? Are you still attracted to her? Sometimes we just feel "fat" but indeed have not put on any weight. It's just in our heads, so that's why I am asking you.
What you say is "I love you just the way you are, but it sounds like you aren't happy with the way you look. If there is anything I can do to help you, please let me know, otherwise just know that I find you more beautiful than the day we met"
There ya go. You aren't discounting her feelings but you are letting her know that a few pounds doesn't matter to you either (if that is truly the case).
My heart nearly broke when my woman told me not not to buy her clothes because she said, " I gained some weight and am self-conscious about it." How should a boyfriend reply? It has to be one of the most common, and worst situations to be in.
If she in fact used those words, her telling him that she's put on weight and feels a bit self-conscious doesn't sound like fishing for compliments as much as a statement of fact. All the OP needs to do is tell her that he thinks she's beautiful, and if he wants to buy her something, ask her what she wants or take her shopping so that she can try on things. Maybe it's a good opportunity to suggest they take dance classes or something active that would make her feel more confident.
Sorry, but NO WAY. Break down the psychology of it so I may understand you better.
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