I absolutely Hate my husband now (responsible, people, years, like)
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She should find a shelter for battered women, file charges against this guy for domestic violence and if she need the money than sue him for causing her emotional distress. If she steals that money, he can file charges against her and it will only weaken her position legally. This is an emotional time but she has better options than what you're suggesting.
If it's a shared account, it's not stealing. The day I left I closed the shared account I had with my abuser--before she found out I was leaving. (I left the day "for work" but asked my boss for the day off and headed straight over to the bank.) I would recommend the same for the OP. You don't want your abuser to have control over your bank account when they find out you left them. I split the money down the middle, left her her half in cash, and took my half.
The hate I hear in this thread comes from the OP not her husband. Who knows what he would say. But we do hear a lot of hate in what she has to say. She hates him that much and she is still with him. Sounds like she just wants the hate, both ways.
The hate I hear in this thread comes from the OP not her husband. Who knows what he would say. But we do hear a lot of hate in what she has to say. She hates him that much and she is still with him. Sounds like she just wants the hate, both ways.
Don’t you think it’s understandable she hates him if he’s abusing her?
She might be staying because she either can’t leave or doesn’t believe she can leave. Abuse victims don’t stay cause they want to. They stay because they either have no choice, believe they don’t have a choice, don’t have enough self-esteem to realize they don’t deserve to be mistreated, or a combination thereof.
Please read up on abuse cycles and how they work before assuming the OP’s motivations.
Don’t you think it’s understandable she hates him if he’s abusing her?
She might be staying because she either can’t leave or doesn’t believe she can leave. Abuse victims don’t stay cause they want to. They stay because they either have no choice, believe they don’t have a choice, don’t have enough self-esteem to realize they don’t deserve to be mistreated, or a combination thereof.
Please read up on abuse cycles and how they work before assuming the OP’s motivations.
Well, sure, but I meet with people every day, all day, who have a story that is their truth but not necessarily the truth. So, sometimes it is just as much valuable information to listen carefully to how they tell the story not the story they tell.
An angry person full of extreme views, like our OP, is indeed an angry person with extreme views. Is her husband a worthless snake and an abuser? Maybe.
Well, sure, but I meet with people every day, all day, who have a story that is their truth but not necessarily the truth. So, sometimes it is just as much valuable information to listen carefully to how they tell the story not the story they tell.
An angry person full of extreme views, like our OP, is indeed an angry person with extreme views. Is her husband a worthless snake and an abuser? Maybe.
So we advise based on the information the OP has given. It would be the OP's fault if they didn't share "the truth." Why would we try to make the truth something that we don't even know about?
So we advise based on the information the OP has given. It would be the OP's fault if they didn't share "the truth." Why would we try to make the truth something that we don't even know about?
I didn't say it was or it wasn't. All we know for sure is that she is an angry person. That is all we know for sure because she authored the posts. Maybe her husband is a worthless snake and maybe he isn't.
I didn't say it was or it wasn't. All we know for sure is that she is an angry person. That is all we know for sure because she authored the posts. Maybe her husband is a worthless snake and maybe he isn't.
Then we go by what she tells us, as that is the criteria by which she wants to be advised, not by how you (genreal) judge to be the truth.
Oh, give it a rest. She can't steal from her husband if she's on the account. She'll be taking what she needs to leave, not getting revenge. Sorry to tell you this, but in a marriage, it's also her money. I know, that tees you off, but just deal with it.
And let's not forget he's no prince with the way he's treating her. It's no wonder wives have to go to that extent. I know, you just expect wives to tolerate that, but it's a different world now. Just accept it.
Typical. And it's no wonder why men fear commitment and don't want to get married out of fear of their wives draining them for everything they have.
Typical. And it's no wonder why men fear commitment and don't want to get married out of fear of their wives draining them for everything they have.
Oh stop with the histrionics will you.
The woman has an abusive husband and needs to get away. He's the breadwinner and she's studying. She's entitled to at least some money to help her get a new start.
You take an extenuating circumstance like the OPs and turn it into a "oh poor men get screwed for everything they have".
Well guess what buttercup, if the guy wasn't such an ass his wife wouldn't be trying to escape.
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Oh, give it a rest. She can't steal from her husband if she's on the account. She'll be taking what she needs to leave, not getting revenge. Sorry to tell you this, but in a marriage, it's also her money. I know, that tees you off, but just deal with it.
