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I work 50 plus hours a week and i'm not lazy when it comes to working etc.
but i value my personal time,
i want to be able to go back to grad school, move or travel when I want too with freedom.
I am still into childish things, like comic books, cartoons, star trek etc.
My cat is enough work for me.
Is this wrong? weird?
It is, IMHO, neither wrong nor weird, but wise.
Know yourself. If you don't want a family, don't have one, it will be a bit harder to find ladies to date particularly over the next 5 or so years as your "target audience" will start to listen to their "biological clock" ticking down to 0 - but anymore you can find "childfree" dating sites-
Dude, I am putting you on IGNORE. Every time I read one of your posts, I have to holler to Dh "HELP! my eyes have rolled so far back into my head, I'm looking at my brain stem!" He has to come along and tap my skull to put things right.
Last edited by silverwing; 02-27-2012 at 09:03 PM..
Not selfish at all. One should only have children if they want them, nothing wrong with not wanting them. I have children and have no issues with people that are child-free by choice.
Some of us know at an early age we're not meant to be parents. I knew it at 13 and have never regretted it.
Me too. I remember at age 12 thinking to myself "Thank God I'm gay so I won't ever have to worry about having kids". I was shocked to see so many gay men getting married and having kids (and subsequently divorcing). It just didn't compute for me.
Yes, I believe it's selfish to not want children. Everyone, except for the mentally insane, emotionally unsteady people and criminals should be a parent. Most people who voluntarily refuse to bear children do so because they want all the luxury things (fancy cars, extravagant vacations, clothes, etc.) and just "don't want the responsibilities."
But of course, as expected on here, people are going to take what I say out of context and get fired up over it.
Uggh. I disagree. I think God I didn't just go with the program like a lot of other gay men from religious backgrounds did who got married, had a few kids and then got divorced when they finally admitted they were gay.
The most selfish thing people can do is pop out kids randomly without caring for them.
Life today is not like it was 2000 years ago. The planet now has 7 Billion people.
As a school employee who witnesses so many kids who haves selfish parents who live to do their thing and the kids get left behind, I applaud your decision.... Sad thing is, you're most likely a successful, motivated, self sufficient/self supporting young man and would have a ton of great traits to pass along to kids!!!
Isn't that the way.....
Yes, it often seems the people who would make the best parents don't have kids or have fewer of them than all the people having them by "accident".
Me too. I remember at age 12 thinking to myself "Thank God I'm gay so I won't ever have to worry about having kids". I was shocked to see so many gay men getting married and having kids (and subsequently divorcing). It just didn't compute for me.
I'm glad gay people have to go through great efforts to have kids so there are no "accidents" and all the right intentions are in place before parenthood begins. I only wish the same were true for heterosexual couples. But I am glad to be lesbian cause parenting is never something I will be able to take lightly (not that I would want to anyway). Basically if I ever had kids with someone, we're both going to have to want them badly, and I feel that should be the case for all parents.
Yes, I believe it's selfish to not want children. Everyone, except for the mentally insane, emotionally unsteady people and criminals should be a parent. Most people who voluntarily refuse to bear children do so because they want all the luxury things (fancy cars, extravagant vacations, clothes, etc.) and just "don't want the responsibilities."
But of course, as expected on here, people are going to take what I say out of context and get fired up over it.
And you are completely wrong. It is not at all selfish. In my years in EMS and ER nursing I'm the one who gets to scrape up the abused and battered children of those who had to have children. Ever look in the eyes of a child that is afraid of their mommy? This is something people should never have to see. Taking on that responsibility is far greater than "popping one out" because "everyone should have children." The amount of time, treasure, and emotion spent on this career choice (both in paid and volunteer capacity) has been immense. But I, the guy with no children, has saved many lives.
I didn't chose to not have kids so I could have toys or to "avoid responsibility." Heck if anything the time I've spent as a volunteer in EMS and SAR, and in progressing my ER nursing career would have been impossible if I had children.
It is far more selfish to have kids "to take care of you when you are old," "pass on the family name," or any other 19th century out of place and time ideals. Funny it's those parents who often quote such drivel that bring their kids into the ER with a wound far more severe than the so called reason it happened.
And as for elaborate vacations, why is it parents - on state assistance - are using their government money in Las Vegas or on cruises?
Who's more selfish - the person who works hard and earns it - child-ed or childfree - or the parent getting out tax dollars and blowing it on a casino. You know if the hit the big one they aren't going to pay back the assistance. These parents voluntarily refuse to be responsible to society and their very own children. That far more epitomizes selfishness. And they are hurting other people, their children first.
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He has to come along and tap my skull to put things right.
