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What do you mean she didn't share your views on 'sexual promiscuity?' if you're already married, why was that relevant? (unless she cheated?)....
It matters that both people view something like this similarly, if not identically. Especially if you're a young couple hoping to have kids together someday! I had more conservative views which she did not agree with (I believe pornography and prostitution are wrong, and can't stand films that have a lot of nudity, etc.). She was more liberal in her opinions on this.
Ehh, I don't think anything inherent in waiting for legal marriage to have sex could explain the correlations here. Perhaps a third factor (traditionalism, religiosity, or lack of impulsivity) could explain both what's "better" in the relationship and the fact that they chose to wait.
As a guy I have to chime in on this one. All I can say is good luck dude. I understand about not having sex unless you're attracted to someone. I'm the same way, I can't have sex with someone I'm not physically attracted to. However, the poster that said she would feel neglected if she couldn't connect with her man physically is on point. Sex is part of a relationship!!! I would not even consider dating a girl that is a virgin and I know girls that think the same way about men. You do realize what's going to happen if you're with someone and the time comes when she wants to have sex and won't or don't know what you're doing? If and when it does you better hope she is a virgin, or better yet has the same thoughts about sex as you do. I've said it on here before and I'll say it again, this waiting til marriage for sex is very old school, and doesn't work in today's day and age. Especially given the fact that many people are waiting til later in life, late 30's to get married, or not getting married at all.
I don't want to have sex until marriage but I'm worried that women won't date me if we don't have sex.
I'm doing this for personal rather than religious reasons.
I've casually hooked-up (no sex) with girls in the past and I've never felt fulfilled being intimate with people I don't really like. So I've decided to remain a virgin until marriage.
wow im really surprised by how harsh people are being in this post. though personally i probably wouldn't date someone who wont sleep with me i do think its a perfectly fine and actually somewhat admirable choice to make.
i actually am somewhat religious though i suppose im bad in the sense i pick and choose what i follow but i also feel strongly that i want to know what someone is like before i commit to them forever. sometimes there's just not that sexual chemistry between people. sometimes two people dont mesh and its just awkward. sometimes people like different activities, etc.
I think sex is a wonderful part of being human, and having responsible, safe sex with a consenting adult(s) should not be put off until later. Engage in sex as often as possible because there will be too many times when life gets in the way, there will a time when the libido begins to wane, etc. So JUST DO IT!!
wow im really surprised by how harsh people are being in this post. though personally i probably wouldn't date someone who wont sleep with me i do think its a perfectly fine and actually somewhat admirable choice to make.
I agree, though when people emphasize some importance of legal marriage as reason to wait, I admire them just a bit less than I would otherwise, because it seems like they are only following along with religious doctrine/traditional norms. To choose to wait for a committed relationship doesn't come with that implication, so I figure it's more likely to be inspired by reasoning of some kind than "Wait until a preacher or judge gives you the green light"
My input to the OP: Hold on until marriage. I am 25 years old, single, and I have never had sex with anyone, period. My reason is more religious. That said, you keeping your virginity until marriage is admirable. I would keep doing that if I were you. Some women won't want to date you unless you have had sex. It says nothing about you. It says something about those women who think the way that they do. I am single, I feel lonely, and I often wish I had a girlfriend. That doesn't mean I'm going to go and have sex with some random woman just to get a girlfriend. I might be alone, but I'm not going to deviate from what I know in my heart is the right thing to do. You shouldn't deviate either. If a woman won't date you because you've never had sex, she isn't worth your time, she isn't worth dating, period.
No sex until marriage? That's playing with fire. Marriages require the ultimate compatibility, and one should know everything possible about their partner before making the commitment. This includes being intimately familiar with their sexuality. In my opinion it's foolishness to not have sex with someone before marrying them. You may be in for a marriage-busting surprise.
No sex until marriage? That's playing with fire. Marriages require the ultimate compatibility, and one should know everything possible about their partner before making the commitment. This includes being intimately familiar with their sexuality. In my opinion it's foolishness to not have sex with someone before marrying them. You may be in for a marriage-busting surprise.
To you it is foolish. For those who are waiting until after marriage to have sex for religious reasons, it makes perfect sense.
To you it is foolish. For those who are waiting until after marriage to have sex for religious reasons, it makes perfect sense.
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