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Wow, where were you when I was in college? lol. You're a frickin' Unicorn. ;-)
1. No idea, what year was it?
2. My boyfriend has called me that. He says he felt like he hit the lottery, with me. I'd say we both feel that way about each other.
What we've got is something I used to believe was impossible. So now I'm saying, "You would be surprised what kind of impossible things, can totally actually happen. Don't give up. Buy a lottery ticket once in a while."
If I really like her then I'll propose to her and we'll get married... then we'll have sex. I don't find sexual compability to be important. I'm not going to dump someone I love just because we don't have great sex.
I don't have a small penis. But, if a girl won't marry me if I have a small penis then she's really not in love with me.
It's remarkable how much people care about sexual compatibility. Perhaps that's why rich men dump their 40 year-old wives for a younger girlfriend or just cheat with escorts.
Hmmm. Earlier, I was going to suggest that if you really liked and loved a girl, it'd be really hard to keep your hands off each other. I feel like I'm explaining the birds and the bees here, but...
When a man and a woman REALLY REALLY like each other, AND they're physically capable...they touch each other in a special way, and that's how babies come. ;-p
Look, if you are not attracted to someone, who can blame you for not wanting sex with them? THAT is pretty normal.
But if you're far enough along in a relationship that you are considering marriage...than the attraction is going to be there. Otherwise, you're just talking about a contract marriage. And if that's the case, you better have SOMETHING to offer to make the contract sweet.
Hmmm. Earlier, I was going to suggest that if you really liked and loved a girl, it'd be really hard to keep your hands off each other. I feel like I'm explaining the birds and the bees here, but...
When a man and a woman REALLY REALLY like each other, AND they're physically capable...they touch each other in a special way, and that's how babies come. ;-p
Look, if you are not attracted to someone, who can blame you for not wanting sex with them? THAT is pretty normal.
But if you're far enough along in a relationship that you are considering marriage...than the attraction is going to be there. Otherwise, you're just talking about a contract marriage. And if that's the case, you better have SOMETHING to offer to make the contract sweet.
That was a post from 2012 but I do find it interesting when I encounter people who don't seem to understand what sexual compatibility is about. Or why it's important. Like, "If we really like/love one another we'll surely figure it out."
Well maybe. Or maybe not.
Sadly I think that too often, there is not sexual compatibility, or one person has needs they don't feel comfortable speaking up about, and so they just accept an unsatisfying sex life and may even think that something is wrong with THEM. I think that's how you get couples that eventually just don't even have much sex anymore. Let alone mismatches in how frequently people even need or want it, which can lead to so much pain and misery in a marriage.
And goodness, to think it's about penis size. Silly. Well, I suppose some ladies are into that, but a partner's attitude and willingness to develop skills is far more important to me.
One of the best bits of advice I can give anyone who wants to be a good lover, is "don't take it too seriously." Go into the act with a willingness and an ability to have fun. Laugh, even! Be creative! The most memorable of my partners had their own styles and things that only they did. The majority though? Just were trying to do what they figured everyone did, hoping/assuming they did a good job of it. I think that's the worst, when a guy is just so meh, so typical, he is instantly forgettable.
So when people get confused about the whole idea of "sexual compatibility" this is what I think of...do they assume everyone is pretty much the same, doing the same thing, and enjoying the same things? That mindset sounds like a recipe for boring sex, to me. And I don't even mean crazy kink stuff. I've had men sing to me in bed and that was hot. I had one bass player, we were listening to music and snuggling after, and he pressed out the finger motions to the bass in the song, on my leg, while softly singing it to me. I've known guys who had just certain moves that were all them, one guy who was a really little (overall, small physical stature, smaller than me) dude who learned a bunch of wrestling moves and throws, and used some of that in position changes (things that didn't hurt, but it was a hell of a surprise to have this tiny guy like toss ya around, you know?)
May I guess their ages? I bet they are young adults, and not 40-somethings?
Yup. I’m only talking about young adults (20-30s). That is my age group, so all I know about. There are a lot of large Catholic young adults groups in areas I’ve lived (Chicago and DC). People in these groups vary in their opinions/practices about pre-marital sex, but there is definitely a decent size, core group (mostly women) who believe strongly about waiting until marriage. In fact, I know a handful of young adult women who are still single now b/c it’s hard to find a Catholic man who is ok with waiting. That is what I was referring to, in my experiences.
There is a good chance that people claiming to want to wait until after marriage are hiding something. They are gay and 'passing'. They are asexual. They have been programmed to believe sex is dirty and should only be done as a duty to conceive. Some are addicted to porn and no longer desire sex with a live human. They are hiding an abusive past. They have no desire/libido.
This is an old thread but it is worthy of discussion. There are too many dead bedrooms out there!
And goodness, to think it's about penis size. Silly. Well, I suppose some ladies are into that, but a partner's attitude and willingness to develop skills is far more important to me.
Any woman who refuses to marry a man because of the size of his you know what, and nothing else, has issues. There is a well known female porn star who one time said in an interview that as long as a man is a great partner (kind, generous, loving, smart, good values, etc.) and gives good oral to a woman in the bedroom, nothing else matters. No reasonable woman will dump him. And really, giving good oral is 50% unselfishness. Some of it is also education (understanding a woman's body) and being attuned to her responses. It can be learned with experience. It's not something you inherit. This adult actress was emphatic that you do not need to be big or be great at intercourse to be a great lover with a lady. I have heard there are some women who dislike oral sex, so I don't wish to shame anyone who is like this, but the fact that a famous female adult actress would put so much emphasis on a sex act that has less association with traditional male sexual performance or the need for a couple to have mutual sex like a hot couple in an erotic thriller movie is quite a revelation.
I tell this all the time to guys who have hang ups about the member size issue. That and the fact that there is an actual support forum for guys with members that are too long. That's the other side of this that nobody wants to talk about. Just because the little ladies online look enthralled when a nine incher comes out, that's not the case with the average lady. It can be painful and intimidating.
I think I wouldn't mind having sex with a virgin, if I knew before hand that he was. I've got no problem with someone being teachable, and really, it's SUPPOSED to be fun...I'd give the guy a shot. But I'd want to know before we hit the bedroom.
Otherwise, I'll be jumping to some other conclusions, and will just assume the guy is a thoughtless clod.
I think I wouldn't mind having sex with a virgin, if I knew before hand that he was. I've got no problem with someone being teachable, and really, it's SUPPOSED to be fun...I'd give the guy a shot. But I'd want to know before we hit the bedroom.
Otherwise, I'll be jumping to some other conclusions, and will just assume the guy is a thoughtless clod.
I didn't know with the one I've talked about, though I started guessing during our first night together. But nothing he did was either thoughtless, nor clod-like. Probably the biggest dead giveaway was how he was a very awkward kisser, he had some learning to do there. Didn't take him long, though.
He certainly did not um...rush through the act. He savored, and made sure I had a wonderful experience, too. The ones who rush and fumble about are usually the young'uns. And they can be like that even if they aren't virgins. Maturity is as valuable as experience.
We actually had a bit of disagreement over whether he was in fact a virgin. He started talking about backrubs (!?!?) and a couple other things he had done with women, and in fact said something to the effect that he believed some women could get off from a really good back rub, and I just gave him a look and said straight out, "Have you ever put your ..... inside of another human being?" and I got an answer then.
Then I grinned and told him he was adorable and kissed his face. Because he was all shy about it and I thought it was absolutely priceless.
No. I would not date someone Who wanted to wait until marriage to have sex. not because I don't respect their morals and values, but more because physical intimacy is important to me just as much as other forms of intimacy
Any woman who refuses to marry a man because of the size of his you know what, and nothing else, has issues. There is a well known female porn star who one time said in an interview that as long as a man is a great partner (kind, generous, loving, smart, good values, etc.) and gives good oral to a woman in the bedroom, nothing else matters. No reasonable woman will dump him. And really, giving good oral is 50% unselfishness..
You know, there are guys out there with very small units that refuse to give oral...lol. My friend dated a guy like that briefly. He was a nice guy but their sex life was not satisfying. She said he had the smallest unit she had ever seen, like less than half of average ..
Sexual comparability is a big part of a strong rerelationship.
If someone does not want to have sex before marriage that is a personal choice and to each their own.
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look and said straight out, "Have you ever put your ..... inside of another human being?" and I got an answer then.
