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Many complain about a cheating partner. And blame the other.
Maybe you're being cheated on is because you're a boring person, humorless, inactive, dull witted, controlling, demanding, or religious zealot.
Don't cast all blame on your partner. Try some self-examination. You just might discover a reason.
Here is the deal, nobody deserves to be cheated on. What people do deserve is HONESTY and a TRUTHFUL partner who can tell their consort to his or her face that the relationship is not working, and either they want out, OR they want an "open" relationship.
Come on, we are all adults, but yet it's crazy how people are so scared to tell the truth, or just admit that the relationship not working for whatever reason.
Stan I can't rep you anymore.
There's a lot of truth in this post.
There is.
The problem I see with cheating is that there's the physical act of sex ... and then there's the dreaded affair. (Dum-dum-DUMMMM!) The latter is far more insidious because there's emotional entanglement, suggesting that there was something in a marriage/relationship that was sorely amiss.
Well, typically amiss, unless the cheater is just a plain ol' sociopath.
A man/woman hasn't gotten any action from his/her spouse/S.O. for two years, let's say. Bump it up to three just to be silly. He/she pays for a call girl/male escort just to get a little flesh-on-flesh action, because day-um, it's just been soooo long. Or maybe the neglected partner has a one-night stand with a stranger at a hotel while out of town and never sees that person again.
And that's the end of that.
Isn't this less worse than having an ongoing affair?
How 'bout an emotional affair? Is the one night stand still worse than the man/woman who makes sexy-talk with his/her high school sweetheart on Facebook?
We need to ask ourselves what we're truly outraged about. Is it the act of sex itself or is it the emotional attachment that often goes along with sex?
This is just me, of course. But if I were married and hadn't put out for a year simply because I didn't "feel it" (even though my husband begged and pleaded with me to just give sex a chance!), I would not be at all surprised to find out that he had a one-night stand.
It's not that simple. Some people behave differently before marriage in a way to make you think as if you're getting a good deal.
nothing is that simple. My point was: people use a lot of these reasons to justify cheating...someone said it earlier too most of the time when these people cheat, they cover it over with lie upon lie instead of telling the partner upfront.... I'm sure there's many more 'reasons' that are going to be put out there for the lying part too.
Seriously? Do you think that people who are in sexually unsatisfying marriages don't try hundreds of times to talk to them about it?
Yup, that's exactly what I think.
No signs that anything was wrong. He helped me plan the wedding, went furniture shopping, he came home on time from work every night, was always available by phone during the day, sex was great, he never once told me that anything was wrong, and then he blindsided me telling me right before the wedding that he was leaving. Turns out it was for someone he worked with - guess they were taking long lunches or something
No signs that anything was wrong. He helped me plan the wedding, went furniture shopping, he came home on time from work every night, was always available by phone during the day, sex was great, he never once told me that anything was wrong, and then he blindsided me telling me right before the wedding that he was leaving. Turns out it was for someone he worked with - guess they were taking long lunches or something
Wow, that's seriously creepy behavior. Sometimes I don't see how people can put on such a good act. I'd never be able to pull something like that off if I had fallen in love with someone else.
Cheating was involved (at least on an emotional level), but it sounds like your fiance was too chickensh*t to tell you until he was up against the ropes. That just seriously wrong.
Something similar happened to me once. Did you ever sense that anything was wrong at all, thinking back on it? Even something really small that you didn't think was out of the ordinary at the time?
That is a very narrow minded, one dimensional view that simply isn't true at all. People are far more complex, relationships are much more complicated. Nothing is black and white.
Wrong is wrong. Hedging gets one nothing. Anything else is lame excuses from people who don't want to accept responsibility for their own actions. It was HER fault my dick fell into that other woman. Wah. No.
Many complain about a cheating partner. And blame the other.
Maybe you're being cheated on is because you're a boring person, humorless, inactive, dull witted, controlling, demanding, or religious zealot.
Don't cast all blame on your partner. Try some self-examination. You just might discover a reason.
There are many reasons why a person cheats. This topic is too complex for this thread as it is multi faceted.
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