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Old 03-19-2012, 08:50 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Serious message:- A man your age must know by now that putting a woman on a pedestal is way different of a concept than taking care of her.

One is about respect and the other is about being a white knight (which implies the woman is weak).
Precisely, typically a man who puts his SO or spouse on a pedestal and idolizes her is potentially as dangerous as an abuser.
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Old 03-19-2012, 08:51 AM
 
Location: around racist white people
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Women want attention ibdont think all women want to be taken care off, some definetely love handouts but all women want attention. If you can't read her mind then you probably won't keep her.
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Old 03-19-2012, 09:09 AM
 
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and take care of her, or would they rather make their own mark in life?
they may want that, but a man with balls wont and will want to lead his own life with someone that respects himself. You see the shift in society from the 1920-1940's of men putting women on pedestals, treating her like a lady ect, after the women's movement. I think Men expect a woman to meet him half way. Coincidentally the divorce rate is now 50%.

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Old 03-19-2012, 09:47 AM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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It's not that women want men to put them on the pedestal. For decades, men have put women on the pedestal and women are used to it. As the same time, it has increased misandry as a result.
No it hasn't, but it is a red flag. No one can live up to the image of perfection. Eventually they fall from grace. The mentality can be found amoung stalkers, and masked anger issues.
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Old 03-19-2012, 09:59 AM
 
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Women want to be adored, not worshipped. To worship a woman is to put too heavy a burden on her.
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Old 03-19-2012, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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I think you are misunderstanding me, or perhaps I phrased it wrong...Do women want their partners to ignore their flaws and see them as perfect? I would appreciate answers from women rather than men telling me what they think women want.
I see a womans flaws as part of her being a "perfectly flawed person." If i met a lady who seemed to want to be on a pedestal, I wouldnt date her. I will adore you. I will show you in many ways what a wonderful creature you are. But I will not put you on a pedestal. Because then it would always be about "you" instead of "us!"
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Old 03-19-2012, 10:35 AM
 
Location: North Hollywood
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A Japanese-American female friend of mine said to me that a lot Asian women like white guys, because white guys put them on a pedestal...anybody agree with this?
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Old 03-19-2012, 11:59 AM
 
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If you find a woman that you sense she wants to be worshipped it is best to avoid her.

Unfortunately, society is slowly but surely heading down the $hitter. There's really only a few decent, kind, loving, and respectful women out there. As a man, you need to learn how to recognize one when you find her, and to eliminate the ones who aren't.

The women you are referring to should be removed from your list of women you would potentially date.
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Texas
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and take care of her, or would they rather make their own mark in life?
Depends on the gal.

All gals wants to know she is number 1 in her man's life.

From that point forward all bets are off. I've seen everything
from fierce independence to wanting to be totally taken care of.

So, there is no definitive answer on this as there are as many
variables as their are women and relationships.
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Old 03-19-2012, 12:13 PM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I have a better and harder to answer question; why do people make such generalizations?
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