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It is a simple question, I noticed some odd posts on here by fellow Desi but it applies to anyone, at what point do people need to ask more people out, try harder, put themselves out and about more, or improve their social skills instead of trumpeting race cards. Thanks yaw
In my opinion, people shouldn't use "race" as a criteria for dating, period.
It's very limiting. They shouldn't limit themselves to certain "races" they should be open to date anybody they have something in common with. Your perfect mate could be from any background, born anywhere on the planet, why limit yourself.
I have listed my race as a handicap in my struggles in dating before. Then again, I've listed most things you can imagine as handicaps in dating, so that's not too credible.
In general, I do think certain races are more desirable across the board. However, whatever race/ethnicity you are, there are millions of the opposite sex to choose from in your own, so you can't really complain.
If you are open minded or have a fetish and want to date outside your race, you may face somewhat more rejection, but that's kind of your choice.
The only problem I have is when I'm open minded and like a woman blind of her color and she rejects me primarily because of my race. I have an inclination this may have happened to me once, but I have no confirmation. It could have been one of the other several things on my list of handicaps as well.
The first sentence does not go with the second sentence.
There are a lot of people who won't like you for your race? So just "get over it?"
I dunno, if someone rejected me for my race I can see feeling the need to vent a little.
Not everyone is going to be into you for a variety of reasons, some of them potentially stupid. Instead of wasting your time venting, consider the bullet dodged and get on with your life.
I don't think it's limited to race. I think some people use X as an excuse fror not getting dates -- period. I am too short, too tall, too weird, too sexy, too pretty, too average, too chubby, too skinny, too lazy. People just want to blame anything and everything that they can't control because it, to their minds, takes away from it being their responsibility to do something about it.
I can't get a date because I'm white/black/yellow/orange/brown/green/blue/pink or polka dot, so it's not my fault!
Rejection definitely does spurn these types of feelings. But let's change your thread title to "do you think some GUYS use race...." because it's pretty much guys who vent about this, not girls. Girls get rejected for other superficial reasons (some of them they can totally change if they worked hard enough), but not race.
I will say this though, girls/guys have always had racial preferences but I think that it's just never been as "in your face" as it is now with the popularity of online dating which gives people free reign to tell the dating world the type of race they want, and consequently don't want.
Well obviously it is not good to get too hung up on any sort of rejection, but I can see how it would bother a person. Race is not something you can control like your weight and if you are constantly being rejected for your race then you probably do have the right to complain a little. The guy on the other thread was complaining that it's hard being Indian? Well, yeah I can see that, I never really see Indian guys with any other race of girl where I live. Could be frustrating after a while.
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It is a simple question, I noticed some odd posts on here by fellow Desi but it applies to anyone, at what point do people need to ask more people out, try harder, put themselves out and about more, or improve their social skills instead of trumpeting race cards. Thanks yaw
oh shug... that's a problem.
