She tells me to 'man up' (marriage, women, child, call)

[Sereinity]

Me and my girl have been together for 3 years but when we argue she tells me to 'man up', i really hate that phrase but what I am I doing wrong?..

[gvillesux]

ok, for one thing worrying over something like this.

[somebodynew]

Go over to Talk About Marriage - The Marriage Advice & Relationship Help Forums. Ask in the men's lounger. You will get an education. It does NOT mean turnign into a jerk.

[Checkered24]

Sounds like she has an expectation for you, and she feels you are not reaching that expectation.

[Sereinity]

Originally Posted by gvillesux

ok, for one thing worrying over something like this.

I just want to feel up the gaps on the cracks, i just hate it when she says it, i have done alot of good and bad in this relationship but it doesn't help when she says that during an argument. I feel lower than a bull and don't quite get the meaning there. The must be something i do wrong emotionally or when handling certain situations

[intelfan11315]

Man up typically means the guy is acting like a child or a pansy. Stop doing that.

[GOBBARK]

Originally Posted by burgler09

Man up typically means the guy is acting like a child or a pansy. Stop doing that.

Namely the latter. She's shouting at him and seeing that it makes him uneasy or uncomfortable. Getting angry or pissed. OK Going into the fetal crouch and NOT OK!

[calicali01]

Originally Posted by Sereinity

Me and my girl have been together for 3 years but when we argue she tells me to 'man up', i really hate that phrase but what I am I doing wrong?..

"Man up" is term that women use to make you feel inadequate when you're doing something that they don't like.

In any case, it's completely inappropriate for a woman to call out a man and use that term unless she's talking to her SON.

Bottom line, tell your girl to stop using the phrase. If she continues then dump her.

[Rabbitluvr]

Personally, I'd show her the door.

[laorbust61]

Originally Posted by Sereinity

Me and my girl have been together for 3 years but when we argue she tells me to 'man up', i really hate that phrase but what I am I doing wrong?..

Tell her you hate that phrase, and in the future you'd like her to be specifically communicate what she would like you to think about changing. This would be better than bashing. It sounds like a symptom of a deeper problem she has with your relationship, or maybe you're with a female jerk?