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So, basically when you reject any person for any reason there's some kind of ism to be applied. That's a lot of isms, perhaps so many that they cancel each other out.
There would be a lot isms if that was the case haha. Anti-Robert Wagnerism anyone?
The OP is not talking about rejecting individual persons, just entire races of people without consideration.
There would be a lot isms if that was the case haha. Anti-Robert Wagnerism anyone?
The OP is not talking about rejecting individual persons, just entire races of people without consideration.
It's still a matter of attributes. That's what's rejected. Most people have standards and criteria. The net is full of such laundry lists so pretty much everybody is guilty of an ism.
I think what some people are just afraid to admit is that "racism" is tolerable in a few rare occurrences, and dating preferences just happens to be one of them. Although, I hesitate to call racial dating preferences "racism" in every situation simply because racism applied in it's strictest definition is based on the idea of superiority.
Generally, my physical draw is to men with dark tan complexions and features like Boris Kudjoe or Will Demp. But I wouldn't rule out a guy I feel a strong affinity and connection to because he didn't match that description. NONE of the men I've fallen far deeply have matched that physical description. If I find two, one darker skinner, one lighter skinned who I felt a strong affinity for (never happened), I'd have to trust my heart and instincts, whichever way that tilts. I don't trust my eyes the way i use to.
Generally, my physical draw is to men with dark tan complexions and features like Boris Kudjoe or Will Demp. But I wouldn't rule out a guy I feel a strong affinity and connection to because he didn't match that description. NONE of the men I've fallen far deeply have matched that physical description. If I find two, one darker skinner, one lighter skinned who I felt a strong affinity for (never happened), I'd have to trust my heart and instincts, whichever way that tilts. I don't trust my eyes the way i use to.
And that would be the way most people feel: You have an "Ideal" then you have "Reality". Who you end up with can seem like a contradiction to people on the outside. When I was young I would have said the ideal for me was a blonde haired blue eyed girl with a dark tan, classic SoCal beach bunny. As an adult I won't pin myself down to anyone that specific as I know what I like when I see her.
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I guess you'd consider me racist then. There's a race of people whom, in general, I have no problem with. They're good people like anyone else but I wouldn't want to wake up to their accent every morning so I won't date one with the accent. Shame on me? Oh well.
I can't believe this thread is still alive and well. So are we trying to say that the line between being "racist" and "just going by preference" blurred so much that we don't know the difference?
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. As an adult I won't pin myself down to anyone that specific as I know what I like when I see her.