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Simple question. Women who are very faithful when they are in a relationship, however, when they are single-all bets are off. Do men view women with many sexual partners as untrustworthy? Obviously this SHOULD be a case by case scenario...but I have a feeling it's not.
Opinions?
There are no degrees of faithful. You are faithful or you are not. When you are single, there is no one to be faithful to, so that is not an issue. Trust comes into play only during a relationship, not prior to one.
Yes, this probably should be a case by case scenario. Being faithful in your relationships and wild when you're single is very different than cheating during a relationship followed by dating one person at a time and I would not trust the cheater.
This answer applies to both sexes equally and was written by a female .
The more she has, the less attractive she is to me. If she has over 5 I lose interest completely no matter what.
Sorry.
Turn the tables. Have you had over 5? Same thing.
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There seems to be a double standard when it comes to this sort of thing. If a man goes out and gets laid alot he is a "stud" among other men. If a women does it, she is a "sl*t". What difference does it really make in the end? As long as the women is std free, then who really cares? I knew this guy a few years ago, who was castrating his girlfriend because she had something like 40 different partners. He used his own mother as an example of what a "women" should be. His mother had only been with his father. When he was looking for reinforcement, he turned to me to co-sign his bull sh t. Unfortunately, I did not share his view. People are people. I am by no means a saint. Why would I expect a women to be "virgin like" when I clearly have never been?
The truth is there is no right or wrong. It depends on the individual. Some guys want a "virginal" type women with little experience, and some don't care. I guess I would be lieing if I said I could handle a "porn star". At the same rate, I would never expect a "saint". Each person has to choose for themselves. There are no right or wrong. Most likely your views will change in time, but perhaps they won't.
I learned years ago, just too not ask. It seemed when I was very young and not that experience, that women with more experience unknowingly "intimidated" me. Yet, once I caught up to that "experience" point, I realized that it did not mean that much to me anymore. What matters is how she is with you. The past should be that, left in the past.
A women who has had a lot of experience would probably make for 'faithful" partners, since one could say, "she sewed her wild oats".
But once again, it is individual..I personally care more about does someone have an std. When you get close to forty (unless your living in a box), the whole numbers game doesn't mean as much to you anymore. You realize that, yes, there were men before you. You weren't her only partner. Just like I wouldn't be hers..
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Simple question. Women who are very faithful when they are in a relationship, however, when they are single-all bets are off. Do men view women with many sexual partners as untrustworthy? Obviously this SHOULD be a case by case scenario...but I have a feeling it's not.
Opinions?
My view, if your past STAYS your PAST, I have no issue.
I've only had 2 so I am not a hypocrite; and I am entitled to my opinion.
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