Can a women have a varied sexual past and still be considered trustworthy?

[Phoenix2017]

Originally Posted by LegalDiva

Also agree the double standard is downright ridiculous. Men are "studs" if they bed 30 women by age 30, but if a woman does the same, she's considered lower than pond scum?? Get real, the street goes both ways these days.

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I disagree strongly with the idea that a man sleeping with as many women as possible makes him more of a "man"...in reality, it makes him more like an "animal", who cannot control his passions, and is utterly subservient to his desires. As a man, I would rather by far have just that one special girl to wed and love an entire lifetime with, and not wild, fleeting, and empty bedroom romps with say 30 women...and believe me, there are other "one-woman men" out there!! Sowing one's oats is 100% meaningless and useless for people who want only that one, perfect, permanent and lasting loving relationship

FWIW, I practice what I preach, since I'm only a few years over 30, and have had 0 intimate partners this far!

[stick2dascript]

Originally Posted by RamCharger1985

The more she has, the less attractive she is to me. If she has over 5 I lose interest completely no matter what.

Sorry.

Alot pmsm shade these views but the truth is that her past is the one of your business and I'd you can't handle that. You shouldn't pursue a relationship at all.

Alot of men are insecure about her sexual history.

[stick2dascript]

Originally Posted by supermanpansy

There seems to be a double standard when it comes to this sort of thing. If a man goes out and gets laid alot he is a "stud" among other men. If a women does it, she is a "sl*t". What difference does it really make in the end? As long as the women is std free, then who really cares? I knew this guy a few years ago, who was castrating his girlfriend because she had something like 40 different partners. He used his own mother as an example of what a "women" should be. His mother had only been with his father. When he was looking for reinforcement, he turned to me to co-sign his bull sh t. Unfortunately, I did not share his view. People are people. I am by no means a saint. Why would I expect a women to be "virgin like" when I clearly have never been?

The truth is there is no right or wrong. It depends on the individual. Some guys want a "virginal" type women with little experience, and some don't care. I guess I would be lieing if I said I could handle a "porn star". At the same rate, I would never expect a "saint". Each person has to choose for themselves. There are no right or wrong. Most likely your views will change in time, but perhaps they won't.

I learned years ago, just too not ask. It seemed when I was very young and not that experience, that women with more experience unknowingly "intimidated" me. Yet, once I caught up to that "experience" point, I realized that it did not mean that much to me anymore. What matters is how she is with you. The past should be that, left in the past.

A women who has had a lot of experience would probably make for 'faithful" partners, since one could say, "she sewed her wild oats".

But once again, it is individual..I personally care more about does someone have an std. When you get close to forty (unless your living in a box), the whole numbers game doesn't mean as much to you anymore. You realize that, yes, there were men before you. You weren't her only partner. Just like I wouldn't be hers..

For alot of men its more a pride thing, so women mess up earlier in life and want to correct it by starting over or finding one guy and erasing her past but just like porm stars who usually have regrets later on for doing porm the past always follows you around. A good amount of men don't want to be that chimwho married the neighbor *****. I know a guy who can't sleep now peacefully because he found out his wife got around when she was younger. She told him to deal with it or leave her and since I know him quite well I can imagine he will be divorced soon lol.

I don't know why alot of men are so weak with this topic, if you have such negative views on this you shouldn't get married and get with a very young girl and groom her to your liking.

[Bideshi]

Originally Posted by findly185

Simple question. Women who are very faithful when they are in a relationship, however, when they are single-all bets are off. Do men view women with many sexual partners as untrustworthy? Obviously this SHOULD be a case by case scenario...but I have a feeling it's not.

Opinions?

I can only say that I was quite promiscuous when single, but am absolutely faithful to my wife. We have been married for 34 years. I will never dishonor her. People can change.

[stick2dascript]

I think a lot of this effect that men have towards women that got around was they never got around themselves so some bitterness is there.

Men who are secure about their sexual past usually don't pay attention to her past as long as she's clean but alot of men just aren't good with women like that so when they get older they feel left out and that they haven't experienced enough.

I think it'd very important a man experiences different women and lives at a young age so when he's older he's content with who he is and what's he's accomplished with women. Men who don't experience living at a young age tend to be older and feeling bitter about their history with women and when they meet women, women tend to catch on to this things.

Even though money is important, alot of what people do is for other people's approval so if a guy didn't get laid during his 20s, a woman who's experienced is gonna have her hands full dealing with him in his 30s

This is just a opinion.

[findly185]

Originally Posted by stick2dascript

I think a lot of this effect that men have towards women that got around was they never got around themselves so some bitterness is there.

Men who are secure about their sexual past usually don't pay attention to her past as long as she's clean but alot of men just aren't good with women like that so when they get older they feel left out and that they haven't experienced enough.

I think it'd very important a man experiences different women and lives at a young age so when he's older he's content with who he is and what's he's accomplished with women. Men who don't experience living at a young age tend to be older and feeling bitter about their history with women and when they meet women, women tend to catch on to this things.

Even though money is important, alot of what people do is for other people's approval so if a guy didn't get laid during his 20s, a woman who's experienced is gonna have her hands full dealing with him in his 30s

This is just a opinion.

I agree with this. I can fully accept a mans past and for those who have a lot of past partners they tend to accept mine, but those who have only had a few LTR and one a few partners, they seem to be completely unable to cope. Guess its some sort of resentment or fear of what they haven't experienced (the unknown).

[lostv]

I believe that you are on to something. I was involuntarily celibate until marriage at the age of 29. Do you have any suggestions for dealing with my lack of contentment? The resulting depression, and low self-esteem have never gone away. Thanks,

[devilkingx2]

I believe some can and some can't it depends on the woman

some people believe that it doesn't matter at all and they can all be trusted

some people believe that once a woman passes X amount of partners she's a **** forever

personally I'd be more concerned with experience and what she did with the past guys vs. me

I'd rather date a girl who had 100 sexual partners, made me 101 but treated me the same

instead of a woman who had 25 partners, made me 26, but suddenly decided that I had to wait until date 15(all the others got laid date one) and that I couldn't have all the fun she had with the other guys(positions, group sex, locations, frequency, etc.)

this is assuming I had omnipotent knowledge of these things for some reason(unfortunately I probably wouldn't)