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Okay thank you everyone. I get it no matter how much she hurt me I am still an abuser. I really did try to be the best boyfriend ever for her. And I'll leave her alone but if she talks to me I won't ignore her. I just want to know what I can do to fix this. (without going to counciling or therapy i just cant afford that). Please I really want to fix this i dont wanna be an abuser
Okay thank you everyone. I get it no matter how much she hurt me I am still an abuser. I really did try to be the best boyfriend ever for her. And I'll leave her alone but if she talks to me I won't ignore her. I just want to know what I can do to fix this. (without going to counciling or therapy i just cant afford that). Please I really want to fix this i dont wanna be an abuser
There's not much you can do I'm afraid...she knows your anger....it's up to her now....for your sake, you might want to learn how to controll your anger and not fly off the handle like you did...a woman doesn't want to fear her mate.
yeah ur right but how do i go about controlling my anger? i just lose it sometimes when shes being stubborn or when im denied by her idk i know im a freak. shes like the only person i ever really let into my life and shared with. i know i messed up but how do i go about controlliong my anger and how do i get her forgiveness or at least try.
She is playing mind games by kissing and texting her ex when you are not around. It's possible she doesn't know how she really feels, or is still in love with her ex. It's not a good place to be in and you should get out of it until she makes up her mind about who she actually wants in her life, you or him, or neither. The verbal abuse is not helping your case and you need to shut your mouth when you get angry. If you feel that you are going to say something abusive, leave the situation until you cool off and then talk to her. Also, turn off your phone when you are drunk, or get rid of it completely. It's not working for you.
She is playing mind games by kissing and texting her ex when you are not around. It's possible she doesn't know how she really feels, or is still in love with her ex. It's not a good place to be in and you should get out of it until she makes up her mind about who she actually wants in her life, you or him, or neither. The verbal abuse is not helping your case and you need to shut your mouth when you get angry. If you feel that you are going to say something abusive, leave the situation until you cool off and then talk to her. Also, turn off your phone when you are drunk, or get rid of it completely. It's not working for you.
I know but shes my first so I obviously give her alot of lee way you know? and as much as that may be true i dont wanna blame her for my abuse. i wanna fix it. i wanna be a man to my word cause i always told her i wouldnt yell again, and i meant it when i said it, but id end up losing control. how do i gain control, and how do i try to work on it when the only person who got me this way was her, the girl im supposed to leave alone forever. shes the first person i rly let into my life and opened up too.
I know but shes my first so I obviously give her alot of lee way you know? and as much as that may be true i dont wanna blame her for my abuse. i wanna fix it. i wanna be a man to my word cause i always told her i wouldnt yell again, and i meant it when i said it, but id end up losing control. how do i gain control, and how do i try to work on it when the only person who got me this way was her, the girl im supposed to leave alone forever. shes the first person i rly let into my life and opened up too.
No, you don't blame her for your abuse. The abuse is all yours. Please reread my post. You do need to get help for it, or it will continue with someone else.
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