Just because you're attractive doesn't mean you're a great catch! (man, single)
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I would think the better solution would be to take a good look at the choices one is making, and try something different. Do some reflection and self-examination to figure out what you're doing wrong that's yielding unsatisfactory results. Throwing in the towel is the easy way out, and won't get you what you want in the end. It'll only get you a life of bitter loneliness.
Being alone doesn't automatically= bitter. I tried it didn't work out so I deal.
Dating is not like trying to have a job or career. No one has ever died from not having a SO. With that said it isn't worth it for some people.
well obviously they need to be basically presentable, but anything beyond that is just icing on the cake. Same with all aspects of a woman's appearance, really. Or a male's.
Most people are unhappy at the mere prospect of living the rest of their lives alone, let alone actually living it. Humans are wired to need love and affection. Studies show that single guys are rate highest on the unhappiness meter. Married men rate happiest. Single women rate next happiest. Just above single guys on the misery meter are married women.
There are exceptions. and just because people need something doesn't mean they can get it. Some people can not find love and affection no matter how hard they look. So they either have two options in my opinion, kill themselves or learn to cope.
There are exceptions. and just because people need something doesn't mean they can get it. Some people can not find love and affection no matter how hard they look. So they either have two options in my opinion, kill themselves or learn to cope.
Giving up at 29 is ridiculous. Or even 39. What makes sense is doing some introspection, or getting some advice/feedback from friends, or dare I suggest *gasp* counseling (which doesn't seem to be a very popular suggestion on this forum) to figure out where you're going wrong, what obstacles you're setting up for yourself, so you can improve your prospects.
If you are gonna quit then quit, do it and be done with it. If you keep harping about it then it tells me you don't really believe in your decision to quit.
What do you mean 'if you're gonna quit, quit' -- that's already in progress. It wasn't as much 'believing in a decision' as it was looking at my reality and saying what I said before, if things aren't resulting there's really no reason to keep putting efforts into it.
I'm going to talk about my experiences (and lack there of) where these things are concerned, the fact that you don't want to hear about it, I'll make sure to fill that under 'so what.'
Giving up at 29 is ridiculous. Or even 39. What makes sense is doing some introspection, or getting some advice/feedback from friends, or dare I suggest *gasp* counseling (which doesn't seem to be a very popular suggestion on this forum) to figure out where you're going wrong, what obstacles you're setting up for yourself, so you can improve your prospects.
Why are you so obsessed with people not giving up? What's so bad about it? How does it effect your life? It's like I said before no one has ever died from not having a SO. I've never expected people to put in so much effort to please me, so why should I put in so much effort to please them? I've done it before and no one seemed to care. If others want to continue to date and be in relationships than I'm happy for them. But I'm not doing it and that's that. People are free to do as they like and if they want to give up they have the right to do so.
Why are you so obsessed with people not giving up? What's so bad about it? How does it effect your life? It's like I said before no one has ever died from not having a SO. I've never expected people to put in so much effort to please me, so why should I put in so much effort to please them? I've done it before and no one seemed to care. If others want to continue to date and be in relationships than I'm happy for them. But I'm not doing it and that's that. People are free to do as they like and if they want to give up they have the right to do so.
Ro I wondered this too but someone on here said it the other day it's b/c they beleive 'everyone has a chance.' Not saying this is her reasoning or anything.
my how you have figured things out at such an early age, you already know how the rest of your entire life will go.
There are a handful of posters here who will chime in on almost every thread an regale us with their horrific tales of relationships gone wrong and their easy way out (quitting) cards.
You'll know who they are. They turn others threads into pity parties.
I've never expected people to put in so much effort to please me, so why should I put in so much effort to please them? I've done it before and no one seemed to care.
How very sad. It seems that your low expectations have defined your reality, and become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
To answer your other question, I'm an optimist, and like to think there's hope for everyone to find what they want. That's all.
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