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The catcalling of women is definitely not restricted to white American males.
Experience may vary. In my experience, catcalling from construction sites is one thing. I've never had a carful of men of color yell obscene compliments while speeding by. Black guys are so much more at ease with women, and charming (in my experience). They usually say something along the lines of "hello, beautiful" or simply initiate conversation, or give a big smile or compliment something one is wearing. This is a vast improvement over "nice boobs!" screamed at 30 mph, or repeated shy, nervous glances with or without half-smile, and complete silence.
You get hit on all the time - by short or fat or otherwise unattractive men who don't care about your skin color, which means in your eyes that NOBODY ever hits on you, because short or fat or unattractive men don't count.
This. Right. Here. Is absolutely RIGHT.
She really needs a serious 'do-over' attitude-wise.
Well, Ruth, the reason why this 'white guy' won't approach anymore is simply because I am told 'NO!' everytime. It's not about any silly 'cultural' thing at all... it's simply due to being rejected Every. Single. Time.
Now... as I've said MANY times - who's the broken record now - if I were to have more positive experiences, ANY positive experiences, then my stance would change. I really cannot comprehend why this is such a difficult concept to grasp. Really, I can't.
I was not trying to be harsh as I know how you feel. I guess I mention the frustration also because I am attactive to white men and people of all races. But after awhile, I started questioning myself because I would hardly get hit on by white men, but other races. I would think and sometimes do like I am not attractive enough, thin enough. I know white men like it thin. This is why is so important to try to keep approaching the female because after awhile she will question herself.
So open up your horizons and try approaching more. If this scares you take a break, I know how crushing rejection can be. It might take months to build confidence. Just remember everyone is not going to love you and everyone has different taste.
Also, pay attention to how you dress and what you wear. I am not sure how it is. It depends on which region of the country you live. If you are on the east coast or even Chicago, it is a little uptight.
Find out who you are and market yourself and find out what markets work for you like a job prospect. Find out which different regions in your area or even the country that will receive more responses if possible.
For example, I get hit on more when I am at work at my university or the more liberal suburb Oak Park than in the city of Chicago as an African American female.
Look into all these factors, try to find yourself, and then go for it!
Btw, no one wants the whisting and hollerin out your car crap. That will get you nowhere! Trust me
Also try activities that you like or simple just hang out. I have met many guys just taking long walks in the city, no clubs or groups. I live in Chicago, and I feel at most peace when I am just walking and getting good exercise. It is one of my favorite things to do.
I voted at least once a week in my personal life. Now if we're talking when I'm working and driving cab, it's several times a day. It gets a bit daunting because many times it's from guys that are not very creative and very redundant with their pick up lines.
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- if I were to have more positive experiences, ANY positive experiences, then my stance would change. I really cannot comprehend why this is such a difficult concept to grasp. Really, I can't.
