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The good news for your friend is that he will eventually get over her. The bad news is that it will be a long time and there is a possibility he might do things that are irrational. I remember my breakup from the longest relationship I ever had and it took me eight months to get over her. Man I tell you, I don't want to go through that again. I thought about her every single day, couldn't eat somedays, quit my job, and even almost got into so much trouble with the authorities when I attempted to stalk her one day, then one police car was passing by, sped off and he was chasing me. I was doing things out of the ordinary I tell you.
I don't know what these posters are talking about. Finding another girlfriend and doing other things does not work when dealing with a breakup for men...time is the only thing that will cure the sadness. What I did during this time though was try to figure out more about women. I was doing everything to try to win her back. Sending flowers, giving her money to pay the bills, gifts for her birthday....nothing. So first thing I found out is that women are notorious rebounders. After a relationship they will find a guy who has terrible features. Why, I learned that in general most women have low self esteem. This is why they always fall for the "bad boy types" Then I found out why doing all those nice things didn't help me win her back. Then I told myself that whatever you do don't fall for a girl unless you know she is the most loyal person in the world. Remember relationships are a gamble, and it is so much easier if you don't fall for a girl. Divorce rates are so high in this country and I think it's because most people make that terrible decision to marry young and often select the wrong person to marry. However it is more devastating for the man if the woman is the cause for the break up.
So I understand where you are coming from OP, women can make you a different person? I tell you I'm going to try my best to not fall into that trap where I was 2 years ago. Pretty much that whole year was on hold and I was not myself because I was thinking about her for 24 hrs. Not as much these days if any
Then I found out why doing all those nice things didn't help me win her back.
Love can't be bribed back into existence. That's why the flowers and money, etc. didn't work. Heartfelt talking and apologies (if appropriate) can work, but only if her love for you isn't completely dead. If a woman's decided it's over, though, no amt of flowers can change her mind.
Very touching post, well done. Most people go through this at some point in their life.
This guy's a dummy being with a woman that long when he's that young. Real young kids don't know anything, when I was that young I knew I didnt know anything so i didnt try to stay in relationships too long or be engaged. Tell him to drink and deal with it and stop being a loser. Also he should try to get other girls because the best way to get over someone is to get under them. I was a Capitol Hill intern too at one point, there's loads of young college age cuties he could hook up with
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You sure do make a big deal out of something you claim to never want.
If you don't want it, don't do it. No protesting required.
Hey society makes a big deal outta love. Aint I allowed to make a big deal outta not wanting love?
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