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The only way a girl will ever go out with me is if she is willing to lower her standards by a lot. Do any women ever do this?
Some probably do. For me, I won't. I know I am not perfect, however, after being in a terrible relationship, I feel I can only go up, and I won't settle. For me, it has nothing to do with money, as some have mentioned, but it has everything to do with character, personality and how he treats me.
Standards as in how a girl (woman, lady) expects to be treated? Not really. People want respect, care, admiration and love from that special someone, vice versa. Looks have nothing to do with this. It's all in how the person makes us feel.
Standards as in all the superficial stuff that's external/conditional? Meaning, these attributes can change for so many reasons that are out of control? Things that don't define a person for whom they are, but a social exchange for one's own worth? As in six-pack, 6' tall, drives a mazaratte (whatever the hell you want to call it)? Genuine people don't give a **** about that.
Most women don't change their standards until they are post menopausal. They lower their standards in some aspects, especially physically. But they raise their standards in other areas, they start to appreciate qualities like kindness and decency in a man.
Many of the men that single older women now find acceptable or even appealing will not feel mutual attraction. Yet if the same woman was interested in that same man when they were younger they would have pair-bonded and quite likely would have been together as they age.
Most women don't change their standards until they are post menopausal. They lower their standards in some aspects, especially physically. But they raise their standards in other areas, they start to appreciate qualities like kindness and decency in a man.
Many of the men that single older women now find acceptable or even appealing will not feel mutual attraction. Yet if the same woman was interested in that same man when they were younger they would have pair-bonded and quite likely would have been together as they age.
You do realize that's not the case for most women, don't you? Most women, most people, indeed care about kindness et al through out life.
Most women don't change their standards until they are post menopausal. They lower their standards in some aspects, especially physically. But they raise their standards in other areas, they start to appreciate qualities like kindness and decency in a man.
Many of the men that single older women now find acceptable or even appealing will not feel mutual attraction. Yet if the same woman was interested in that same man when they were younger they would have pair-bonded and quite likely would have been together as they age.
jay i do understand that issue of youthful mutual attraction , pair bonding, and then as they age they still have those beautiful memories of each other as younger. And that's pretty idealistic. But yes i have to agree that there is a lot more to it, since people don't get attracted randomly. People are attracted to each other for many different reasons.
I have to say that I lowered my standards with disastrous results once when young, and at a different time 20 years later after deciding not to go that route again, I raised my standards too high, with disastrous results. As your age group of eligible men gets older, they tend to have lots more issues and disabilities for one thing. Just like females do as we get older. So being a nurturing soul can have its rewards even if the potential mate isn't in as good of shape as he used to be. That might be lowering your standards in terms of condition but it isn't lowering your standards in terms of quality of person. However this is something that has to be gotten used to. It may take a little time for the lady to accept this if she isn't used to the idea, and if it is true in her case. One thing to remember is that 2 people who love each other with that intangible spiritual love, that is warm and fuzzy, can take such good mutual care of each other that their condition improves and they begin to thrive and look years younger, certainly brighter and happier in countenance. Not to mention that they just feel very very good with each other, that after all is what counts.
You do realize that's not the case for most women, don't you? Most women, most people, indeed care about kindness et al through out life.
definitely agree. most people look for love, and look inside the other person, not just AT them. especially as you mature, although some people are still looking only on the surface of things it's also true, unfortunately.
except for attractive women when they are most desired 18-24, who all mistake kindness for weakness. But your fantasy story sounds alot nicer so you can believe what you will.
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