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If you are good at a sport or have interests like science fiction or reading, try getting together with a local group (meetups.com) in your area. When you are talking about a subject you know about, chances are you will go with the flow & overcome your awkwardness. Its a good boost for the confidence. You can also try volunteering. When you meet someone through participating in some activity, you have something common to talk about & it could be easier to ask them out later because you have already been introduced to the person. It would also help the other person relax their own boundaries when someone they already know asks them out. Dont try too hard. Just focus on being interesting & highlight your skills, talents that others might find interesting. Accept rejection as a part of life. Dont dwell on the reasons for too long & keep connecting with people. See it as a practice towards improving your socializing skills. Some people come into our lives to teach us harsh lessons, so see these rejections as a blessing in disguise. Learn form them & move on. And no matter what you are suffering from, a majority of people face similar challenges when it comes to dating & relationships.
I ask a girl on a date, no matter where she lives, and she sees me like I am either Charlie Sheen, Casey Anthony, Jerry Sandusky, or all three. Also not helping things is the impression that girls aren't friend-zoning me, they are putting bounties on my head. (Not trying to be funny, it's my personal convictions speaking.)
To clairfy this earlier statement: It's hard to say whether this is really happening.
I have friends that have aspbergers, one of which I've been friends with for years. This guy REALLY wanted to date women. He was very passionate about overcoming this issue. He went out often and interacted with people constantly. When I first met him, he was very abrasive and used to offend many women. Now, he's much more relaxed and does get girls. It's definitely something that you could overcome man. Don't let anyone on here tell you otherwise.
But it will take hard work. If you want it bad enough, you could definitely do it.
I have friends that have aspbergers, one of which I've been friends with for years. This guy REALLY wanted to date women. He was very passionate about overcoming this issue. He went out often and interacted with people constantly. When I first met him, he was very abrasive and used to offend many women. Now, he's much more relaxed and does get girls. It's definitely something that you could overcome man. Don't let anyone on here tell you otherwise.
But it will take hard work. If you want it bad enough, you could definitely do it.
anything worth having doesn't come easy, and that applies to guys more than girls
I'm a quarter century old. My biggest problem is my social awkwardness; which has been a MAJOR impediment in my life, and why I have not had a GF.
It should be known that I am an Aspie, and before you rail on the fact that I am using it as an excuse; it is a serious problem for some of us.
Onward....
I ask a girl on a date, no matter where she lives, and she sees me like I am either Charlie Sheen, Casey Anthony, Jerry Sandusky, or all three. Also not helping things is the impression that girls aren't friend-zoning me, they are putting bounties on my head. (Not trying to be funny, it's my personal convictions speaking.)
Simply put, I am not having much luck with girls because of the social awkwardness and the aforementioned being-compared-to-maniacs. I feel sad, and that coupled with being a virgin still doesn't help matters.
I know what you're feeling. I'm 26, struggle with social awkwardness, and I've never had a girlfriend. The best I can offer you is to keep trying.
and women don't need any skills in order to attract men, it just happens for them
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