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As a mature woman with some great relationship memories, I can vouch that no well-balanced, self-respecting woman wants a slob for a partner in her life. Me, personally, have never been attracted to stupidity, foul-language, or personal laziness, either. Maturity is a BIG plus.
Many men I meet in social gatherings these days seem like immature boys in men's bodies, more prepared for boy's locker room antics than mature relationships.
Ah but love is blind and a woman in lust will overlook many faults. I've never seen one lust over maturity but they will often claim that they are attracted to his maturity, to cover up what they are really lusting after!
Let's be honest to ourselves. Not everyone is going to be either rich or famous. So the best option for them is to have better confidence, better attitude and other qualities. You have to stand out in a positive manner. Crying in the nearest conner isn't going to help them. The only one who can get this done is the person himself.
It is true that '' changin yourself '' really does help with attracting the opposite sex. Just make sure you don't become fake and out of who you really are, because that sucks big time.
I don't buy this whole "confidence" thing. Many men who women sense are confident are insecure, possessive, controlling etc. Many of the men women sense as not being confident are actually quite self-confident.
So what we call "confidence" in a man is actually something else alltogether. It's usually just a lack of goodness or decency.
I don't buy this whole "confidence" thing. Many men who women sense are confident are insecure, possessive, controlling etc. Many of the men women sense as not being confident are actually quite self-confident.
So what we call "confidence" in a man is actually something else alltogether. It's usually just a lack of goodness or decency.
I always thought confident men were the ones that knew what they were doing, spoke with a clear tone, kept their chin up and their posture straight...
Damn I guess I had the wrong role models in my life.
I don't buy this whole "confidence" thing. Many men who women sense are confident are insecure, possessive, controlling etc. Many of the men women sense as not being confident are actually quite self-confident.
So what we call "confidence" in a man is actually something else alltogether. It's usually just a lack of goodness or decency.
Because you are confusing confidence with mere appearance of confidence. For a purpose of a one night stand, mere appearance of confidence is needed, since most women cannot tell the difference. internal reassurance in not only unnecessary, its often counter-productive. higher school of flying, brought to you by ascension.
Well I can assume that you guys have read the title which explains what this topic all is about.
A lot of guys at CD seem quite negative with negative threads ( says me :P since this thread can be seen as negative or explanatory.) such as Women would rather have a Chris Brown then a nice guy or one of the other I am nice guy why don't women like me QQ threads. So has it ever crossed your minds to ever change yourself in terms of attitude and/or physical appearance, because kind attracts kind. If you happen to be 'ugly' then you will have to compensate for it. In such a manner that you have more muscle mass, better clothes and/or attitude. Why should these women ( Idk on what kind of women you guys fall, but if I could make an educated guess then that would be 'hot' super models with who are highly intelligent as well) 'digg' you guys if you have nothing to compensate for. I bet that you guys wouldn't like to underdate an 'ugly' girl unless she had tons of money lying in her bank account. So If I were you guys then I should be either content with what you get or just change yourself. If you truly have the motivation to get that girl then it shouldn't be that hard to make the needed changes. Such as going to the gym or getting new clothes or try to get out some more or something else that is needed. I know that it isn't easy, but if you have the motivation then you should be able to do it. Right now I am going to the gym to work-out myself, dressing better (more 'chic' clothes) ,because I really want to change myself. Just don't be like those sad guys that you find on dating sites, who expect more than they truly deserve.
A bit judgemental, eh?
I work out every day, sometimes 2 a days... squats, chest presses, running, you name it... and I still can't get a girl to look at me. Lots of people work hard at improving their looks... only a handful get rewarded for their efforts. Just like in other areas of life... lots of people work hard at their jobs, but only a handful are lucky enough to actually get rich.
The reason some guys get more women is because they are HOT and have a killer body. A tall, muscular, fit guy who doesn't dress like a slob and has a job will attract the women. If, in the alternative u are not hot but honk you are, that also tends to work just as well!
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