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I had a summer job in my hometown, and afterwards moved away to another state for school. My boss was a fairly young (I would say early 30s...I am early 20s), and a very friendly guy. We were on good times while I was working for him, and could joke around and talk, but we weren't "friends" or anything, it was just on the friendly side of professional. And he is married.
But anyways, after not talking since the summer, I got a random text from him at like 11PM on Saturday asking how things were going...it was a mostly innocent enough conversation, mostly just about my new city and grad program. With a few slightly awkward moments...like he asked if I was homesick and I said that I was a bit, and he asked if I had a bf back home and I said no, and his reply was "single and in the city, hmmm". haha, I don't know, he was probably just being friendly, but I got a slightly weird vibe from it, probably mostly just because of when he chose to text me. Would you have found it weird?
Yes and not exactly appropriate for that time of night but I'm big on no phone calls after 9PM (left over from growing up in my Mother's home). Anyway, I probably would not have any further contact with him especially if you got a weird feeling from it, it is generally best to go with your gut. If he texts again or calls just don't answer him. He'll get the hint and go away soon enough.
Definitely unusual. And inappropriate. What's a married guy, texting a single woman at that time, out-of-the blue, with this subject matter, who wasn't really a friend to begin with, expecting to accomplish by doing this?
haha yeah, I definitely wasn't flattered, just confused. I don't exactly think that it was a "booty call", considering that I moved veeery far away from where he lives and he knows that (his second text was asking about the new city). And honestly that was most of the convo (him asking questions about the city and my program and my roommate...stuff like that). The only slightly weird part was what I posted, so it wasn't really inappropriate, but just very weird.
haha yeah, I definitely wasn't flattered, just confused. I don't exactly think that it was a "booty call", considering that I moved veeery far away from where he lives and he knows that (his second text was asking about the new city). And honestly that was most of the convo (him asking questions about the city and my program and my roommate...stuff like that). The only slightly weird part was what I posted, so it wasn't really inappropriate, but just very weird.
Don't kid yourself my dear it was VERY inappropriate in more ways than one.
Right. A happily married person doesn't text a single person at that late hour "just to check in."
If he texts again, keep it professional and try to end it quickly.
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