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I've no direct experience of such things, but from what I've read & watched I would say it's challenging to date someone (of either gender) who is a "public servant" (nor is it an easy task to be the public servant, either).
"Public servant" could be defined in a number of ways, including but not limited to police/fire/medical/military/political/religious personnel or leaders.
People who are "on-call" at a moment's notice, I wonder how (or if) they & their families manage to have a home life & solid relationship. I'm not casting any aspersions upon the character of individuals in these professions. I'm saying that with the job demands placed upon them, it seems like there would be very little time/energy left over for the non-professional aspects of the person's life.
I feel sorry for people who have to be perpetually available to the public-and have to, due to the very nature of their career/position, put the public "first" in their priorities.
I feel sorry for their families if they are neglected-and, I do not mean that in an "oh, I'm so superior" sort of way-not in the least.
It's probably off-topic for Relationship section, but my mind goes in the direction of considering how the broader society/culture might better support people in these necessary roles (and their families)...
You are very wise. I myself avoid single mothers who has a living ex. There is the drama of meeting the ex and other issues.
Exactly. I was "lucky" to have seen this issue upfront early on in a few situations so I knew from then on to avoid it. One guy never had money because his ex was taking it and another was always in court with his ex. There were a few other cases but these were the extremes. Not to mention that had I married one of them the ex could have gone after him for more money because I was making more. I was shocked to read this but according to a law site it is very common for stepparents to end up paying child support or even alimony to the ex. I'd rather give my money to a charity or people I know who I am close to and need it instead of an exwife who might be too lazy to work or kids I had no role in bringing in the world.
Many of them do, yes. They can be cheap to a fault (due to low wages...many never get over it even though they may make more as their career progresses), HIGH rate of fidelity due to being away from home so much and they can be super arrogant for no real reason. Private charter pilots are a million times worse than commercial pilots though, and oftentimes they're really good looking too which really doesn't help.
Female pilots...well...I honestly haven't met very many that fly as a career. It's not a very female friendly career option unless you're a flight attendant.
As for my experience, I'm not a huge fan of accountants or anyone in finance. I find they're too nit picky about everything around them and can't just relax and let things flow.
Although this thread refers to men, I would add hamburger joint worker. This one girl I was interested back in the day was a real cutie but she smelled like a burger whenever I saw her.
haaahha
[that hungry look in my eye is not for you - gimme a burger!]
Although this thread refers to men, I would add hamburger joint worker. This one girl I was interested back in the day was a real cutie but she smelled like a burger whenever I saw her.
haaahha
[that hungry look in my eye is not for you - gimme a burger!]
I think it is a mistake to discount military men. I was raised in a military family and I am grateful for.it because my life would be much worse without it. My father was a good citizen, was a role model who sacrficed his body.for the US, was a stand up father with discipline who taught me a lot. He wasnt a perfect.man, had a lot.of demons (possibly due.to multiple tours) but make no mistake my whole family including.folloeing generations prospered thanks.to his career choice. I would proudly date a soldier.
Many of them do, yes. They can be cheap to a fault (due to low wages...many never get over it even though they may make more as their career progresses), HIGH rate of fidelity due to being away from home so much and they can be super arrogant for no real reason. Private charter pilots are a million times worse than commercial pilots though, and oftentimes they're really good looking too which really doesn't help.
Female pilots...well...I honestly haven't met very many that fly as a career. It's not a very female friendly career option unless you're a flight attendant.
As for my experience, I'm not a huge fan of accountants or anyone in finance. I find they're too nit picky about everything around them and can't just relax and let things flow.
There is that stereotype of the boring, stuffy accountant that can't let loose and most of the ones I have met more than likely fit the stereotype. Or they were just downright nuts screaming at their clients and throwing things across the room.
I guess I must be the exception to the rule. I've told numerous people my goal is to be the accountant that is far from boring. Because of the economy there are also a lot of people switching to accounting degrees, so the old stigma and stereotype may soon be gone. However it is still a male dominated field, but women are quickly catching up.
There is no field I can't tolerate really, but I will say you have to be gainfully employed. I won't date someone involved in illegal activity. I have a family full of cops, that wouldn't fly for a second. Oh and I won't date anyone that lists their professions as a pseudo combination such as barista/poet/urban gardener.
I take issue with men who are mama's boys. I'm dating you, not you and your mother. I'm not willing to be with someone who still has the umbilical cord attached. If you're still living at home because of financial reasons, or she needs help, fine. If you're still living at home because you won't grow up and she does everything for you still, forget about it.
I think it is a mistake to discount military men. I was raised in a military family and I am grateful for.it because my life would be much worse without it. My father was a good citizen, was a role model who sacrficed his body.for the US, was a stand up father with discipline who taught me a lot. He wasnt a perfect.man, had a lot.of demons (possibly due.to multiple tours) but make no mistake my whole family including.folloeing generations prospered thanks.to his career choice. I would proudly date a soldier.
Its the "has a lot of demons" part that hurts relationship with military men that have fought in the war. I agree that they are generally great guys though. I just think it is easier for military people to get involved with others who have served. My ex-boyfriend used to tell me that I would never understand what he has been through. He was right. No matter how much I tried, I just couldn't. The weird thing is, he specifically liked that I wasn't in the military, and yet that became the problem that ended the relationship.
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