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I get the sense that this forum has a prejudice against single moms (more than the norm). I've been a lurker for a while now and I can see why many of you can't get dates. Some of you think too highly of yourselves. Single moms are not trash. Get over yourself.
I will always ask about the child's father though. In my area, a lot of the single mom's had children with dead beat psuedo boyfriends. The moment he found out that she was pregnant, was the moment she stopped hearing from him. At that point, I have to do my own analysis and draw up my own conclusion.
It seemed that these single mother's weren't really what I was looking for. They didn't have any ambition and never seemed to really be moving forward in life. Long stints in subsidized housing and never really wanted to be free of government funding. That ultimately rubbed me the wrong way!
The few single mom's I have met that were what I would have looked for, never had an issue getting a date. They had the ability to get babysitters to go out on a dates as well. With what I met in the above paragraphs, a babysitter wasn't always easy to obtain. I do agree that the type of single parent plays a very big role, but the single parent's character plays a role as well.
It highly depends on the age bracket. If you're under 20... probably a very slim chance, mid 20s - your mileage may vary, 30s - reasonable but you'd probably run into more single fathers by then.
Can I ask some questions? For the OP (or any single mother), what is your dating preference in men... and be honest here, childless or with children? Job, no Job? Lower, middle, upper class? Career preferences?
When it comes to dating, what do you expect the guy to do?
What if the guy you are seeing wants children if things get serious?
What do you bring to the table that can attract a guy and make him stay?
Will your Ex be a problem?
Are you capable of showing him appreciation and gratitude for going long term despite sacrifices on his part?
I probably shouldn't treat this like some kind of interview, but I'd like to get a better insight on what goes on inside their minds when it comes to men. I rarely get to see anyone ask these questions, and I'm not seeking to antagonize ANYONE. Please try to keep shaming language (I.e. "A real man would, etc") to a minimum, I can't stress that enough.
I have dated a single mother before and its challenging. I honestly would not go after a single mother unless we REALLY hit it off. On the other hand I think a lot of single mothers have more qualifications of what they are looking for.
Goes well with this whole fantasy universe that women seem to be living in. Every situation in their life is somehow relatable to something that happened in a hollywood movie, a show or a story. It drives me crazy. Ill tell my girl something about a couple i know, and her usual response is "oh, its just like johny depp and so and so in this or that movie" I hear women repeat this nonsense ALL of the time. Its as if any real situation that takes place, forces their mind to automaticaly seek fopr a hollywood parallel to give it any validity. Its funny and so very sad at the same time. Ladies, hollywood is not the real world.
Many women think life is like Hollywood, many men think life is like the set of a porn and treat women thusly.
People are messed up.
As for the OP, I know very few single Moms personally, but know of quite few through friends and family. None of them have ever had issues dating long term or getting marriage proposals by decent men. It seems my single, childless female friends have more of an issue dating than my single mom friends.
No one has the right to judge a single mom unless they're a virgin. Anyone can be put in that position. I simply wouldn't date a single mom because I wouldn't be able to deal with a kid. I'd be dumped in a heartbeat.
Rumor has it that single mothers have more difficulty in the mating world, at least according to the ladies on here. Agree or disagree? Feel free to share any first hand experiences. I have not observed this trend elsewhere. Seems like single mothers in the general population (outside of CD relationships forum) don't have much trouble getting men. It's not a deal-breaker for me nor for any other men i know. So i am just wondering whether anyone has firsthand experience to either confirm or deny the idea that men pass by single mothers.
My observation is that they don't have any more trouble dating than the average woman. But some single moms prefer not to. Actually, I knew a single dad who waited until the kids were grown before dating and remarrying, too.
No, you're confused. A quality man(a man that has things going for himself) wouldn't date a women with kids(unless he him self had kids), she would be at the bottom of the totem pole. Now a man that's desperate would take any kind of women he can get.
Well I take offense. My brother is a quality man, a pillar in the community and a wonderful husband and father. He married his wife and she had an infant at the time whose sperm donor abandon them. They just celebrated their 19th wedding anniversary. I have a whole bucket of stories that debunk your theory.
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