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Smart men realize that if they're always ending up with shallow women, they need to start making different choices. They start looking for personality more than looks. Men have married women who they weren't interested in for their looks at first, but found the kind of personality they'd been searching for. Their whole perspective changed, and the attraction grew.
But...those are smart guys, not C-D guys...
So those "smart guys" get to have their cake and eat it too? Sounds like a good plan.
I have a feeling a lot of will men read the second sentence of the title of this post and say, "no, we can't." The argument goes that you cannot control you feel attracted to, that being drawn to beauty is just a basic biological response. Besides, why bother trying to have a relationship with someone you're not attracted to?
I agree, up to a point. I agree we really have no control over who we find beautiful. And I agree, attraction to beauty probably has a strong biological component. But that is not really the question I am asking.
My question is whether we sometimes give too much weight to beauty relative to other factors. Many men will quickly reject a smart, warm, charming, witty, supportive, compassionate women just because she isn't beautiful. However, I am amazed at how many men will put up with a dumb, cold, crass, vapid, selfish, cruel woman just because she is beautiful.
Being drawn to beauty may be biological. But placing beauty above all other values in choosing a partner seems more a learned behavior. And maybe, a behavior we should try to unlearn.
What do think?
I think that sure, we can't help who we are attracted to, but I do think it's good to keep an open mind, that if one doesn't find instant overwhelming physical attraction to a woman, then one shouldn't just toss them aside as potential dating material.
One of my first girlfriends was a girl I met and thought "she's cute" and nothing more. We were friends for a while, and one night we ended up hooking up, and it turned into a long-term relationship. In other instances, I've met women who I thought "wow, very hot", and then found no chemistry.
Look, I'm not saying give every girl a chance, rather that again, one should just keep a somewhat open mind, not be too judgmental, and see what happens.
The men who complain that women can get sex anytime (not true, btw) are comparing themselves to women. They think that's all there is to it, just have sex, and you'll be satisfied. Wham, bam, it's over. But that's only satisfying for guys. That does nothing for many women. Sex isn't that simple. Some women may be able to get sex anytime, but that doesn't mean it's at all satisfying."Women have it so easy", is the gist of what they're saying. No, women don't have it easy. Women have to be very selective about who they have sex with if they want a satisfying experience AND in order to avoid rape.
You're kindoff arguing different things.No one said sex is awesome every time for a woman, people are saying they can get it any time. Which I don't know how you can argue against. Men are the easiest creatures on this planet
You're kindoff arguing different things.No one said sex is awesome every time for a woman, people are saying they can get it any time. Which I don't know how you can argue against. Men are the easiest creatures on this planet
How is it 'kindoff' arguing different things to arguing against the 'women can get sex anytime' notion being this awesome advantage it seems most guys think it is?
In your opinion guys are the easiest creatures on this planet. In my opinion if guys were the easiest creatures on the planet then they wouldn't rank gals like meat, there would be no to little critical male eye regarding gal's youth and beauty says otherwise, most dating/sex/relationship advice for guys by guys wouldn't be 'how to get a hot young gal', and 30s+ guys would be seeking gals their own age rather than solely/mainly gals 10 years younger than them.
There's 2 different issues. No one on the "women can have sex at anytime" side has never even argued the first position(at least to my knowledge).
Men aren't easy for relationships, but for casual sex you bet. Guys will have sex with literally any girl it's unbelievable. Of are you gonna argue that men are more selective on who they sleep with then women Lol?
But this is going way off topic to another issue from another thread, its the last Ill say on the matter
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