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I met James 5 weeks ago, at my college cafeteria. We sat next to each other and he started asking about the book I'm reading (turns out he is using the same one for his class). We kind of clicked and had a great time, so we exchanged numbers. That night he text me and made brief conversations. After that day, we started texting each other every night (but he always initiate the conversation). About 7 days later, he asked me to come out again and just chill around. I wasn't busy and I needed some break from my midterm studying so I agreed to go(I am not looking for a relationship). Anyways, we hung around for a bit and chatted (he did not did anything disrespectful or was touchy, he acted like a friend). Flash forward a week later (we still text everyday and he is still the one who always text first), we went out and he put his hand on my shoulder the whole time (which I didn't mind much because he is attractive). But I got really pissed off when he proceed to kiss me when he walked me back to my dorm. I was like really mad but I didn't want to make a big scene in front of my dorm and had people come out and see what is going out. He just kind of begged and was apologizing a lot and kept making excuses for his behavior such as he thought I liked him and such.
The next day, he texted me and tried to act normal, but when I didn't reply, he started to text for my forgiveness. He called 3 times that day also and left quite a few messages. After 1 1/2 week, I guess I wasn't pissed anymore so I forgave him. He is my type so I told him that we should take thing slow. The next time we hung out, we kissed and hold hand but no sex. Although we kiss, we do talk a lot about each other and he doesn't always tries to kiss me. I told him I wasn't ready for sex and he promised to respect me (I'm not sure if he is just saying to get me though) Anyways, we just became official a week ago (and he did asked me to be his girlfriend when he first kissed me but I just finally said yes) and he starts to put his hand on my legs and he likes to invite me back to his dorm (although he does not force it and we usually go somewhere else).
The thing is, he does help me a lot when I need to. He helps me edit my essays and is willing to do most things I asked him. Also, when we go out he usually pays. We also talks about our majors, families, and such too. His text messages contain nothing sexual, and are usually just asking me what I am doing and stuff. But he is a bit touchy so I don't know if he wants sex or if he wants a real relationship....
I don't know if he wants sex or if he wants a real relationship....
you're approaching the age where if you're not having sex then it's not a real relationship
there are a few folks here on virgin patrol who pretend otherwise, i'm sure they'll chime in soon enough to contradict this
but the short answer is of course he wants sex
you're not being totally honest with yourself. two weeks in and you're absolutely furious that he kissed you... but 3 and a half weeks in and it's OK to kiss? as long as he's helping you with your essays I guess! time to start being more honest with yourself about what you want and cut out the games
The thing is, he does help me a lot when I need to. He helps me edit my essays and is willing to do most things I asked him. Also, when we go out he usually pays. We also talks about our majors, families, and such too. His text messages contain nothing sexual, and are usually just asking me what I am doing and stuff. But he is a bit touchy so I don't know if he wants sex or if he wants a real relationship....
When you go out, he usually pays.
Guess what? You've been dating him.
That you are all ticked off that he kissed you goodnight is unreasonable and ridiculous.
He's been taking you out. He said he's willing to wait. He likes you.
But yes, eventually, if you continue dating, he will want sex. Not "JUST" sex, but sex as part of the relationship.
Welcome to the world of grown-ups.
Oh, and open up your own wallet once in a while. He's not your meal ticket. This is 2012. Women pay for dates, too.
And it wouldn't kill you to stop treating him like a trained dog. He does what you ask of him? What do YOU do for HIM? What do YOU help HIM with? Or is it all take, take, take, on your part?
you're approaching the age where if you're not having sex then it's not a real relationship
there are a few folks here on virgin patrol who pretend otherwise, i'm sure they'll chime in soon enough to contradict this
but the short answer is of course he wants sex
you're not being totally honest with yourself. two weeks in and you're absolutely furious that he kissed you... but 3 and a half weeks in and it's OK to kiss? as long as he's helping you with your essays I guess! time to start being more honest with yourself about what you want and cut out the games
Yes I will chime in. Has nothing to do with what age group she's in, this applies to any age: She should do what she wants, not what he wants. If she told him to wait and he still is getting 'handsy,' she should drop him.
If you put yourself out there to be used for sex, that's what's going to happen.
Oh and him helping her with 1 essay or 10 doesn't equal jack squat for him sexually.
Holy crap. He kissed you? I'm just shocked. If I were him I'd avoid you like the plaque.
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