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However your S/O has a stroke and loses the ability to hold a conversation. Everything else stays the same. Only the (fictional) part of the brain that controls the ability to hold a conversation is affected. Your S/O can still say some words. "Yes", "No", etc. But can't have a conversation.
Do you dump them or stay together?
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Your S/O is not only vocally impaired his/her communication is impaired.
That's hard to answer without being in the actual situation. Are we married? Are there children involved? It would be much harder to leave if we were married with children.
As terrible as it may sound, if we weren't married and didn't have kids I think that I would end up leaving.
That's hard to answer without being in the actual situation. Are we married? Are there children involved? It would be much harder to leave if we were married with children.
As terrible as it may sound, if we weren't married and didn't have kids I think that I would end up leaving.
Your S/O is not only vocally impaired his/her communication is impaired.
I'd still stay, because we've been together for so long I know what my SO is going to "communicate" before it's even said..so no matter, as long as I could communicate, and SO could understand, that's all that matters...I couldn't imagine being so callous as to leave someone just because they've suffered some disability, I'd not be able to turn off my love for that.
However your S/O has a stroke and loses the ability to hold a conversation. Everything else stays the same. Only the (fictional) part of the brain that controls the ability to hold a conversation is affected. Your S/O can still say some words. "Yes", "No", etc. But can't have a conversation.
Do you dump them or stay together?
EDIT:
Your S/O is not only vocally impaired his/her communication is impaired.
Don't know how I might behave in the future under conditions different than what they are today.
However, linguistic communication is pretty much a requirement for me to have a relationship with someone, yet I realize there is body language as well.
Not knowing if it is a permanent injury or if some recovery is possible makes it all the more difficult to say what I would do, how long I would wait (stay w/the person) in this hypothetical.
Is an interesting question to consider, though.
Enjoyed reading Diane Ackerman's "One Hundred Names For Love: A Stroke, A Marriage, and the Language of Healing", 2011, in which she shares what life is like with with her husband since his stroke.
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pg.103: "Never before did I have to store someone else's trauma-not only live it at my own cost, as real gut-wrenching, but also replay it later when he asked what happened to him, as inevitably he would. I felt oddly like I was taking over some of Paul's higher brain functions (decision-making, interpreting, memory storage), shouldering the mental burden and adding it to my own. One brain laboring for two.
Not a complete novelty. Despite feeling separate, our brains regularly assign various functions to others: teachers, nannies, doctors, policemen, farmers, et al. And cede momentous and trivial work to spouses every day."
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