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Here's the problem, OP: You just seem like no fun.
You're in your mid-30s, but you still have a view of sex that resembles the perspective of a woman from a sheltered Victorian era. I lost my virginity late (24), despite having no religious beliefs preventing me from doing so. NO ONE in my circle would have called me a prude. I was always comfortable talking about sex, imbued it with no magical powers and understood that it was a pleasurable experience. It is possible to be a virgin and not clutch one's pearls about other folks' sexual choices. I know PLENTY of people who have made similar decisions about their sexual lives, and they didn't come off as judge-y as you do.
Between your wanting to be adored, your determination to remain a size 4 and your refusal to have sex before marriage combined with your disgust at other women having multiple partners, EVERYTHING about you screams prissy ICE PRINCESS, with a side of disconnection from reality. I'm sure you're very pretty, but you give off a vibe here that you are repulsed by sensuality to a certain degree - which is a huge red flag for most guys.
You should be looking for potential mates at churches, Christian-based organizations and Christian dating sites. You will no doubt find men there who share your values on the surface. However, once they dig deeper to the nitty gritty, they're still going to figure out that you're pretty uptight/controlling.
This. Work this out before you're 40. You probably want children , right? Good luck!
So are church women....Holy cow, some of the Southern Baptist and Catholic girls I knew in my teens and early 20's....Repressed sex is wild sex. It's not a very healthy way to go through life, though, and at my current age I value sanity more than I value wildness.
What ever happened to good, virtuous women? Lately it seems that good and virtuous has been replaced with cruel and vindictive, courtesty of feminist ideology. So in essence, there's nothing really to appreciate except for those rare few amazing ladies. I live to appreciate and respect those types.
There's nothing wrong with your belief system; it's just that you're going to have a difficult time finding a man who will suppress his sexual urges for months (yikes) or years () until YOU'RE ready to have sex with him within the confines of marriage.
And one more thing. Women who have sexual relations with men before they're married does NOT make them less "virtuous", less classy nor does it mean they're "desecrating" their bodies. A woman can have sex/make love with a man (or men) that they care about and still have a beautiful soul and have their own set of moral values that works for them; just as your own moral values works for YOU.
Your post seems to have an air of superiority and vanity to it.
Good luck with what you seek, OP. You're really going to need it.
Why is it so hard to find a nice/intelligent guy (of any race) who will continue to date me long-term, after I inform him that I do not believe in pre-marital sex? I'm attractive, well educated and in great shape. Also, I enjoy cooking. It's too bad that far too many men are pre-occupied with sex.
Whatever happened to men dating, appreciating and adoring good virtuous women?
Well as you can see, it's quite okay for some of these people to say to you: 'what are you 14?' 'go join a religious group,' 'your antiquated views,' "you're judgmental & vain, "you're not any fun" etc. etc. -- but when the shoe is on the other foot, it's "How dare you talk down about women that are different from you."
It's fine for you to have whatever views you like towards sex, sn't that what everyone else is doing here? Looks like. But just know most people are hypocrites and you either go with the majority opinion on these matters or don't bother going at all. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
most people, men AND women, want to test drive the car before they buy it.
Yeah, that's a large part of it. OP, I hope you learn quickly or find a very patient partner because the first few times you do it you will not be good at it. My ex-wife was a virgin when we got married and she was really bad in bed. It was frustration too because she did not take direction well and never really did learn how to "move" when she was on top. I had only had 3 partners myself but at least I had some experience.
Well as you can see, it's quite okay for some of these people to say to you: 'what are you 14?' 'go join a religious group,' 'your antiquated views,' "you're judgmental & vain, "you're not any fun" etc. etc. -- but when the shoe is on the other foot, it's "How dare you talk down about women that are different from you."
It's fine for you to have whatever views you like towards sex, sn't that what everyone else is doing here? Looks like. But just know most people are hypocrites and you either go with the majority opinion on these matters or don't bother going at all. The sooner you realize this, the better off you will be.
...what's wrong with suggesting she join a religious group? Her unusual life choice is based on her religious convictions, so it sounds like good advice to me.
You can think of no other reason that anyone would be concerned with correcting an idiotic false statement other than "buttkiss"? I feel sad for you.
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It's not a very healthy way to go through life, though, and at my current age I value sanity more than I value wildness.
) until YOU'RE ready to have sex with him within the confines of marriage. 
