Stuck up girl? What do you think? (attracted, call, advice)
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On top of the fact that most women actually get turned off if you come on too strong.
Thank you; Jesus. That's how I feel almost 90% of the time with every girl that I've every been with or even see in general. If you come off too strong it leads to them thinking you're clingy/needy Want more attention then they can offer. The list goes on.
Anyway, She's pretty stuck up i'd have to say. If she thinks that she is that important I hope that for her sake, She is a model. Or has a Huge inheritance coming her way. Or else she's really not that important after all. The way that she worded it, It sounds like she's stuck up, needs attention and would be a real piece of work. She's been called princess too many times.
Stuck up or not stuck up. You're the stuck up one or you're not the stuck up one. Who cares which one of your is the bigger snob?
I've always thought that if a guy wants to see me (or talk to me) he will make it happen. I'm not saying I don't put in any effort, because I do. But, you are too busy to send a simple "hey I'm running errands and will be busy this afternoon, how about I call you tonight?" then you are too busy to date. Why get a girl's hopes up that you are interested in them (by initiating contact) and then ignoring her for days. I would take that as you not being intereted or a game player. Neither of which are attractive. I think that this relationship started off rocky and can't get much better, so learn from it and move on!
Most women won't deal with that crap. Even as a guy I wouldn't deal with it. Her reaction was immature, but you're not going to get too far with decent women if you do that.
What he said. Taking several days to respond means you're not interested or too busy to date. It sounds like you want a FB, not a girlfriend.
I think you both are stupid. You must have horrible luck with women. You have to strike while the IRON is HOT and pursue aggressively if you are interested. You can't just sit back and casually wait 9 days and then re-initiate contact.
Sounds like you work to much to even want a relationship, so just focus on getting friends with benefits. It will be better for the both of you.
I suggest putting some boundaries in your life and managing your time better.
mmm... not really
Just a mix of sort of lazy with certain things, and CRAZY busy, like CRAZY
TWO places an HOUR from each other, I live out of over the week.
When I'm on my full schedule of my hobbies (gym, mostly) I'm busy MORNING TO NIGHT (got errands to do too)
Oh please you are stuck up too! If you want a relationship, make time for it!!! Hobby my arse! My husband before we got married/dating also has his hobbies take most of his free time but since he wants a relationship, his hobbies take a back seat for ME! Because I dunno I guess loving and being loved by his woman feels MUCH better than what his hobbies make him feel?!
If you are looking to date but not make it your priority then I suggest you keep having relationship with your hobbies... how's that working for you?
I wouldn't bother with a girl who took 9 days to respond. I also wouldn't bother with a girl starting confrontation like that. Both parties no good here.
You sound just as self absorbed though.
This is how I feel. I honestly do believe everyone is busy, but in all reality, if you aren't out of the country you can respond to a message within 24-48 hours. Waiting nine days is carelessness on your part. She shouldn't get upset, but how you returned her message is already setting the tone, to her, of how communication will be between you two. Maybe she built you up in her head as someone who is a nice guy, and than you kinda shat on it. With online dating, women get just as many messages from guys they don't care about. When they message someone they spark an interest in, they can get a bit emotional when the person doesn't respond in a timely manner.
If I didn't hear from you for 9 days, I would imagine you tried other avenues and then came back to me as a default. That's how I would feel as a guy. It stinks too, but I'm not a pull tab kind of person.
It's also the smart phone age. When I was online, any messages I received would "push" through my gmail account and I would get a notification on my phone. Fact of the matter is, when someone says they are busy they are kinda lying. Just about everyone has a smart phone to accomodate their busy schedule. We can't catch you by the phone or a computer, but we can catch you on your phone. You may be really busy, but like someone else said, being that busy just doesn't accomodate to anything more than being friends with someone or a FWB.
I tapped her on the shoulder and said, "Do you have a beau?"
She looked at me and smiled and said she did not know
Stuck-up girl give me a chance
Stuck-up girl let's go slam dance
We'll dress like Minnie Pearl
Just you and me, stuck-up girl
I'm told the Dead Milkmen changed the lyrics at the last minute.
Dating site,
Sent her an interest
and an email
Emails me back
I don't respond for 9 days (busy)
She goes "well thx for responding do oosh"
I tell her I'm busy I live out of two places
She gives me a weird, snide like 5-word response back using a few things I said
I said "I dunno how to respond to that
How about you tell me about yourself?"
She says she lost interest
I say "OK, plenty of guys have less going on, we all make our trade-offs"
She sends me her number
I texted her last Thursday evening a bit, got distracted over the weekend
Texted her again Today (tuesday), She responds
"See here's the thing. I'm a super important person. U don't see that u lose. Not interested take care"
Stuck up? Self-absorbed? Self-important?
I think so, you decide
I WOULD care more and make more of an effort, but I'M BUSY, remember how you want successful men, or men who do a lot, etc. etc.? Yeah, that makes men busy. On top of the fact that most women actually get turned off if you come on too strong.
And more basically, I don't know if she's that special. That's the bare truth of it. So she doesn't automaticaly get higher priority.
Every above average looking girl today thinks she is super important and special. May have something to do with 5 or 6 guys chasing her during her early 20s. I think her over inflated ego will come down to earth, once she hits 35 and is raising a couple of bastard kids by herself.
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