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A player is a man who secretly dates multiple women in whom he has little or no emotional investment, mainly for the purposes of ego gratification and to impress his male peers. Players tend to look at dating not as a search for companionship, but as a predator/prey interaction. Most players actually hate women.
A player is a man who secretly dates multiple women in whom he has little or no emotional investment, mainly for the purposes of ego gratification and to impress his male peers. Players tend to look at dating not as a search for companionship, but as a predator/prey interaction. Most players actually hate women.
How can it "impress his male peers" if it's done "secretly"?
I think he means the women are secrets from each other.
Just continuing to point out that everyone appears to have their own definition of the word "player" with the only common denominator being, "person who is attractive to multiple partners." Whether it's secret, or involves lying, or is done to impress, etc., is really neither here nor there. Time to drop this silly word.
Just continuing to point out that everyone appears to have their own definition of the word "player" with the only common denominator being, "person who is attractive to multiple partners." Whether it's secret, or involves lying, or is done to impress, etc., is really neither here nor there. Time to drop this silly word.
I agree with your definition and it mirrors mine. I do get a kick out of the negative connotations many posters want to assign to the concept of being a player, considering our society rewards players in many great ways. OPretty much every guy in his 20s and 30s, would like to be a player, because women fall for players like there is no tomorrow and once you have several women interested, it takes very little to no effort to attract more. Remember, a male virgin is an equal of female **** in our societies eyes.
I do get a kick out of the negative connotations many posters want to assign to the concept of being a player
I get a kick out of it because nobody who knows me has ever called me a player to the best of my knowledge, but I fit the definition that often gets thrown around on this forum, as do a large portion of the single guys I've known. Many of the single women I've known, too, for that matter.
It's called dating, people. It's what desirable single people do. Sometimes it involves multiple people, and sometimes people get hurt. That's how it works.
I get a kick out of it because nobody who knows me has ever called me a player to the best of my knowledge, but I fit the definition that often gets thrown around on this forum, as do a large portion of the single guys I've known.
Well, if dating multiple people at once makes one a player, it's hardly a damning definition. Plenty of women do that too. It's just the nature of modern dating - everyone's rushing about, always busy, so if you keep all your eggs in one basket or only date one person at a time, it's going to be an awful long time before you find something stable. People flake, disappear, cancel, grandmother got run over, turn out to have someone else, just aren't interested anymore - etc. The only time I'd have any ethical objections would be if a couple, after going out for a while, agreed to be exclusive, and one of the couple still sees people on the side. That would be manipulative and unethical in my book.
Well, if dating multiple people at once makes one a player, it's hardly a damning definition. Plenty of women do that too. It's just the nature of modern dating - everyone's rushing about, always busy, so if you keep all your eggs in one basket or only date one person at a time, it's going to be an awful long time before you find something stable.
To me, the difference is that a player "plays" people (duh, hence the name.) Each woman thinks she's exclusive, and she's the only one in his life. There's an element of deception involved that's more than just playing the field.
I get a kick out of it because nobody who knows me has ever called me a player to the best of my knowledge, but I fit the definition that often gets thrown around on this forum, as do a large portion of the single guys I've known. Many of the single women I've known, too, for that matter.
It's called dating, people. It's what desirable single people do. Sometimes it involves multiple people, and sometimes people get hurt. That's how it works.
Agree with this too.
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