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Skid marks (guys), ketchup oopsies (girls)…let’s just all do our own laundry.
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Originally Posted by GINGERSNAP1963
Oh gracious those are the grossest things to have to look at aren't they? It's like didn't your momma ever teach you to wipe your *** correctly?
Oh my goodness!!! Okay...I've never had to wash skid marks out of his drawers...thankfully he either knows how to wipe his ass, or knows to toss them straight in the trash. I don't care which is it, so long as I never see it.
I've also never tossed a pair of undies in the laundry that had an "oops" on it from my period. Those go in the trash as well. I've got a drawer full and they are cheap enough to replace.
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Originally Posted by shortnblack
If you can't share the bathroom? Don't even bother.
Some of the guys I know who are married have a piece of the bathroom and they sometimes have to share that fraction.
Don't even talk about the bedroom, nor the diningroom, livingroom or kitchen. They all belong to her. In this case the "whats yours is hers and whats hers is hers" rule may apply here.
The garage is all yours and maybe a chunk of the basement.
If there's a storage in the apartment? Get it before she does.
Yup...pretty much describes our house. However, he doesn't really care either. When it's time to buy furniture he tells me to go pick something out. He hates the process, doesn't care what color I paint..etc. So long as he doesn't have to deal with the decisions, he's fine with whatever I choose.
I wouldn't live with someone if I was not married to them though. I have no desire to share living space with someone I don't want to share my life with.
I don't get this. When my husband said we are over. The second he said that, I got up and pack ALL my things. Maybe I am just too proud. But I can't fathom NOT leaving right away when the other person has said it is OVER. It is his house. But if it's MY house, I hope he does the same - leave, ASAP.
Now, if it is OUR house, like paying for it equally then of course I won't leave.
As someone who was in this position, all I can say is that it depends on the circumstances.
I was the person who had the person who owned the house come home one day and say he was done, and it took me a couple of weeks to find a new place, get my things moved, get things squared away. In an ideal world, I would have packed my things and vanished that night...I certainly wanted to. I am proud, too, and didn't want to stay in his house a second longer than I had to. BUT, walking out on the spot wasn't an option. I moved to our city for him...I had no family closer than 500 miles away, and realistically, nowhere to go. I have friends, but nobody close enough that I'd have been comfortable prevailing upon them for a temporary place to live. Realistically, it was going to take me a couple of weeks to find a new home, and line up the resources needed to move my life out of his house.
Trust me...I would have preferred to snap my fingers, be gone, and never have had to see him again. Had I family in the area, I'd have gone and stayed with them, and had one of them go and move my things out. I didn't stay on because I wanted to, I stayed on because I literally had nowhere to go until I could get into my own apartment.
.... so what? Since "not all women want to commit" negates the notion? Fail.
Men use living together as a way to have a wife without having the legal obligation as a wife. And most women fall for it. Stupid. My brothers have told me the same thing. There's no reason to "make a commitment" when she's already in the home performing the role.
.... so what? Since "not all women want to commit" negates the notion? Fail.
Men use living together as a way to have a wife without having the legal obligation as a wife. And most women fall for it. Stupid. My brothers have told me the same thing. There's no reason to "make a commitment" when she's already in the home performing the role.
That wasn't the case for me or any of my friends. I'm sure it happens but I do not believe that all men do this.
That wasn't the case for me or any of my friends. I'm sure it happens but I do not believe that all men do this.
They most certainly do not. I could make anecdotal statements, as i'm sure could you, but what's the point, people will either believe this to be the case Dewdrop or they wont.
Location: where people are either too stupid to leave or too stuck to move
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Originally Posted by steelstress
.... so what? Since "not all women want to commit" negates the notion? Fail.
Men use living together as a way to have a wife without having the legal obligation as a wife. And most women fall for it. Stupid. My brothers have told me the same thing. There's no reason to "make a commitment" when she's already in the home performing the role.
i didn't say it negates the notion, you said that
and some men do some men don't.. stop make generalizations. #fail
I wouldn't live with someone if I was not married to them though. I have no desire to share living space with someone I don't want to share my life with.
Agreed. As much as I am not interested in living together, I am even LESS interested in living together not married.
Honestly, I think age has a lot to do with it. If you are in your 20's or early 30's - it's probably not as hard as when you are in your 40's or older. It's a lot easier to make the adjustment to living with someone else when you haven't been on your own for that long. Before I moved in with my husband back when we were dating - I had never lived by myself. I had always had roommates. It didn't take much adjusting at all to get used to living with my husband - in fact, we loved it. But I have friends and my mom has friends who were divorced or widowed for a long time and then remarried - and moving in with their new spouses after living on their own for so long was very trying.
I agree. I'm settled. I have my own house with a beautiful yard and I have worked hard to get things the way that I want them. The furnishings in my home are the result of many, many years of hard work, and I still have things I want to do inside. I have great neighbors, and I love the area and my short, traffic-free commute to work. I'm as happy as a person could possibly be, right here. And my BF knows that.
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