Why do girls that reject you still try to talk you? (attractive, friends)
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Does this happen to anyone else? A girl will reject me then she'll still talk to me even months later. I've had some girls that have rejected me go out of their way to talk to me again, so I'm not initiating anything this time around.
If a girl rejects me I want her to leave me alone and I want nothing to do with her. Anyone agree?
Yes I agree. However, in reality, things are rarely all black and white.
I've been accused of being a tease several months ago. I have talked to a guy on the phone for 3 months and we met up for lunch and dinner for several times, and he got very if not extremely attached to me. I enjoyed his company, but I couldn't get over my ex. I hated myself for doing this to him, but I couldn't help it.
This gentleman has told me on several different occasions that he was not into playing games, if I didn't want to have a relationship with him, let him know. I told him, " I don't want a relationship with you, but I want to be friends." I felt really really really pathetic after saying that.
I honestly don't know what it is. I googled online and couldn't find answers. I am definitely NOT lonely, I definitely do not need a relationship, I just miss the emotional intimacy with a man. But relationship is simply too much work for me. I don't understand why a man just cannot have a nice dinner with me without all that sexual tension. I can simply sit with a guy face to face without picturing him naked, but guys have troubles doing it.
This gentleman has told me that men have absolutely no troubles end the communication if they feel there will be no chance with the girl for a potential relationship. Well, the thought of him not being in my life saddens me, but the thought of him being with me in a relationship annoys me. I just want a guy friend, that is it. But he feels I have been playing with his emotions.
I guess men and women are wired differently. I miss his companionship, I miss the stimulating phone conversation late at night, I miss having a casual lunch date with him, but I guess he just has to move on. I am glad that he cut me loose though, I know I can never be able to.
eh i dunno about the OP but personally while i have no problem being friends with members of the opposite sex (and indeed i do have many women friends), i find it almost impossible to be friends with a woman i'm actually attracted to. that's why i usually just distance myself completely when my advances are rebuffed. i have nothing against her, no ill-will or anything of the sort, and i most certainly don't 'hate' her. i suspect that's how it is with most guys that share my views on the matter.
Heck, I'm still friends with about 80% of the guys I've ever dated, and good friends with my ex-husband.
I've been known to introduce guys I've dated to women I know, sometimes with great success for both of them.
Yes I agree. However, in reality, things are rarely all black and white.
I've been accused of being a tease several months ago. I have talked to a guy on the phone for 3 months and we met up for lunch and dinner for several times, and he got very if not extremely attached to me. I enjoyed his company, but I couldn't get over my ex. I hated myself for doing this to him, but I couldn't help it.
This gentleman has told me on several different occasions that he was not into playing games, if I didn't want to have a relationship with him, let him know. I told him, " I don't want a relationship with you, but I want to be friends." I felt really really really pathetic after saying that.
I honestly don't know what it is. I googled online and couldn't find answers. I am definitely NOT lonely, I definitely do not need a relationship, I just miss the emotional intimacy with a man. But relationship is simply too much work for me. I don't understand why a man just cannot have a nice dinner with me without all that sexual tension. I can simply sit with a guy face to face without picturing him naked, but guys have troubles doing it.
This gentleman has told me that men have absolutely no troubles end the communication if they feel there will be no chance with the girl for a potential relationship. Well, the thought of him not being in my life saddens me, but the thought of him being with me in a relationship annoys me. I just want a guy friend, that is it. But he feels I have been playing with his emotions.
I guess men and women are wired differently. I miss his companionship, I miss the stimulating phone conversation late at night, I miss having a casual lunch date with him, but I guess he just has to move on. I am glad that he cut me loose though, I know I can never be able to.
I've never been in the dating world to accumulate opposite sex friends, so I don't think it's a matter of men and women being wired differently, but rather intent and expectations not matching up.
I don't have any male friends that were derived from a dating relationship that didn't work out. Maybe that speaks to the quality of the guys I dated , but at the same time, once a dating relationship is over, I personally don't feel the need to hang onto men I was intimately connected with as I move forward.
Back in the Stone Ages when I started dating, you either wanted to go out on a date together or you didn't, but there was no automatic default of "no thanks, let's just be friends" that there seems to be today.
While I think "rejection" is a harsh term for someone who simply doesn't want to go out with you on a date, I do see the OP's point that he doesn't want the women he is or was interested in dating to be lingering as friends when he wanted more than that. It's perfectly okay that he'd rather not have them in his life at all.
I have had this happen to me on numerous occasions. You really can't take it personally. As everyone else has said, it really is up to you in the end. If you don't want to be friends with her, just don't. Just like she told you, she doesn't want to date you anymore, you can just as equally tell her, you don't want to be friends. Now I do understand where some women come from, especially if the guy is nice and fun to be around with, but she just doesn't have a romantic interest. And because the guy is great to hang around, it can be hard to stay away from that, I mean lets be honest even finding people who are fun to be around can be just as difficult as finding someone to be in a relationship with. So from a woman's perspective I totally get it, having said that if I am not interested in her friendship, I will just move on and break off contract, and just like she wouldn't expect me to have her hard feelings about not wanting to date me anymore, I would expect the same from her in return.
I don't see a problem. The above poster, rego00123, is right, she isn't hurting you and it's not her fault she is not interested. I simply forget about girls that aren't interested. You can't change their minds if they aren't attracted to you. Thus, there is little point feeling bad or hurt. Now if you were already dating that is different. Getting rejected is a fact of dating and there is no point in getting hurt about it.
You can change her mind...
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, but at the same time, once a dating relationship is over, I personally don't feel the need to hang onto men I was intimately connected with as I move forward. 
