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They actually did a study about it a few years ago, the latter being wrong(marry a ugly wife) that if women want a successful marriage/relationship they should get somebody less attractive than themselves. The theroy is that if a man has a beautiful wife he's more willing to work at the marriage/relationship as opposed to a guy who is more attractive than his wife. The more attractive man will be resentful of the woman, becuae he will always think that he could have done better, and he becomes bitter and the relationship becomes toxic.
"The [less attractive] husbands seemed to be basically more committed, more invested in pleasing their wives when they felt that they were getting a pretty good deal. "
"When studying the opposite occurrence — attractive men who had married less attractive women — the researchers found that the husbands were less satisfied in their marriages, and less helpful in the interactions with their wives. They were basically saying, ‘Huh, looks like I settled a little bit,"
I have not found this to be true. When I've been with better looking than myself, somehow they treat me better. When I felt I was better looking than someone, he ran around . . .Some people are not satisfied no matter what. Not everyone values only looks, especially as time goes on. People fall in love differently and at different speeds.
Society will always tell the man to love the woman more, because men have to keep the entire diamond, restaurant, greeting card, chocolate, and flower industries propped up .
I always found this concept disturbing. I think at least at first it must be a mutual, pretty much even attraction. Possibly even the woman loving the man more (but we don't need to over do it with clinginess and making him the whole world when we hardly know him.) As time goes on, maybe 5-10 years in, I think it's then ok for the man to love the woman more. Does anyone agree with the "better for the man to love the woman more" and if so, WHEN is this best started?
I don't think there's such a thing as even attraction. I also don't think a noticeable imbalance in feelings is a good thing.
Currently, I'm with someone who is probably in a little deeper than I am, but he keeps it in check. It might sound strange but it's a really crappy feeling when you know you care for someone but you'll never love them like they love you.
Society will always tell the man to love the woman more, because men have to keep the entire diamond, restaurant, greeting card, chocolate, and flower industries propped up .
I want to be this society voice everyone keeps hearing in their heads! I want to say "Give somebodynew money." "Somebodynew wants a new boat!" "Somebodynew wants a new car!"
I think if the woman loves him more, he is more likely to take it for granted and justify going outside of the marriage. Men may hate divorce more, but that won't stop them from straying. Since her love is so abundant, he is more likely to think he can get away with it.
I think the opposite could also be said to be applicable.
I think the opposite could also be said to be applicable.
Except women are less likely to cheat. They are more likely to go outside of the marriage for emotional support. Women more often use sex to feel loved, while men use (pretend to) love to get sex.
Except women are less likely to cheat. They are more likely to go outside of the marriage for emotional support. Women more often use sex to feel loved, while men use (pretend to) love to get sex.
Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake entire relationships.
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