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Emotionally unavailable is tough to deal with. I dealt with something similar a few months ago and I couldn't quite put my finger on what made it so hard until I started dating someone else recently. Bottom line, I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable. It will slowly suck your soul as you give more than you can ever get. I would continue to be her friend but date other people. Let her figure out what she wants in life and then maybe you can date her when she's ready.
At first it's fun because it's a challenge, 8 months in to the relationship you just get frustrated at her not being able to express her feelings / emotions / moods ... and it results in constant fights.
I would tell you not to do it, but why in the hell would you listen to me lol
I'm with those who say you should not lie to her. You are dealing with a person who has some serious trust issues. Lying to her could spell the end of the relationship, period. If she thinks that you're manipulatiing and/or controlling her, through deception....well, figure it out.
She doesn't want to "date", but perhaps...if you're patient and yet persistent, she WILL accept invitations to go "do something" with you. Just be yourself when you're around her, you don't want her falling for someone other than the "real you". It's just one more form of deception and she's clearly got some well-developed BS radar. LOL
This is just as bad as any bird-brained woman who dates or marries a creep thinking: He's damaged (from a divorce. Ptsd. Child abuse...whatever) and he needs me to save him from himself.
At first it's fun because it's a challenge, 8 months in to the relationship you just get frustrated at her not being able to express her feelings / emotions / moods ... and it results in constant fights.
I would tell you not to do it, but why in the hell would you listen to me lol
Interestingly enough, when the genders are reversed in this example people tend to excuse the "unemotional" guy, citing gender differences, but it's just as frustrating for the girl.
Interestingly enough, when the genders are reversed in this example people tend to excuse the "unemotional" guy, citing gender differences, but it's just as frustrating for the girl.
I love this post. <3
Totes agree.
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