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Could you date or consider a LTR with someone who absolutely could not sleep with someone else in the same bed? Someone who at the end of the night would either go to their own place, or relocate to another room.
I would try it if she insisted and she was a good fit as a relationship partner.
But I am extremely biased against it.
Who knows though, I may wind up liking that arrangement
I think married couples should sleep in the same bed together.
^^ This ^^ -- and not just married couples -- all couples.
My man is a BIG man -- 6'4 and 260 pounds. We sleep in a regular double (full) size bed. Yes, his feet are up against the bed rail; yes, I am usually plastered up against him all night long (I am always cold), but he does not want a bigger bed (I asked him!). He is big into snuggling and cuddling.
I always thought I preferred sleeping alone as I am a light sleeper. No more. I've gotten the best nights of sleep since sharing.
Just to set the record straight, being a person who cannot sleep in same bed at same time w/another person
has no correlation with how affectionate, demonstrative, and highly sensual that couple is during waking hours/time together.
I have no argument with what the poster's preferences/tolerances are, just making sure two behavioral traits weren't being inappropriately conflated as identical or linked.
Not linked, but they can def. both be present.
Neither are things that personally work for me, and one reminded me of the other, but, no, the two aren't necessarily linked. People who don't like to be touched generally also don't like being touched in bed/while sleeping, but people who can't tolerate being touched in bed/while sleeping may or may not take issue with being touched in other contexts.
Neither are things that personally work for me, and one reminded me of the other, but, no, the two aren't necessarily linked.
People who don't like to be touched generally also don't like being touched in bed/while sleeping, but people who can't tolerate being touched in bed/while sleeping may or may not take issue with being touched in other contexts.
Yes, that's all I was trying to get across (underlined part).
Appreciate your understanding.
It's not an aversion to "touching in bed/while asleep", it's (for me, personally)
about not being able to fall & stay asleep next to another person.*
Sorry if I'm taking your post too literally, but the difference between traits/behaviors
(and how they are related to affection/cuddling/physicality) is important to me.
*and it's not like I'd refuse to ever sleep in same bed, just that I'd want to have the option
for separate sleep spaces, without creating hurt feelings.
I would have no problem with separate rooms for sleeping. My wife needs minimum 8 hours and I need about 6.5. So I come to bed much later. We never cuddle before falling off to sleep.
My husband and I are on different sleep schedules. I get to bed somewhere around 12:30 or so and get up at 6:00. He goes to bed around 10:30ish and gets up at 5.
We never cuddle in bed...actually, we never cuddle. I just don't care for it, it makes me feel trapped.
If we slept in separate rooms that wouldn't bother me.
No. Part of being in a relationship is learning to live with each others peculiarities. You might lose some sleep the first few nights, but you adapt and adjust.
I am a light sleeper, and will wake up with most tossing and turning. Instead of complaining about it, I help relax him so he goes back to sleep. Rubbing his back, his legs, holding him... works every time.
Yes, that's all I was trying to get across (underlined part).
Appreciate your understanding.
It's not an aversion to "touching in bed/while asleep", it's (for me, personally)
about not being able to fall & stay asleep next to another person.*
Sorry if I'm taking your post too literally, but the difference between traits/behaviors
(and how they are related to affection/cuddling/physicality) is important to me.
*and it's not like I'd refuse to ever sleep in same bed, just that I'd want to have the option
for separate sleep spaces, without creating hurt feelings.
Totally agree.
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