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I've a friend in his 40's who lives with his mother for the past 10 years (not for financial reasons, but I've never attempted to, ahem, broach the subject with him). He's single and has no prospects. Is there a correlation? I think so.
It's not impossible, but some women may be skeptical. My advise is to really focus on improving your life. You're 27 soon to be 30 soon. Focus on YOU and forget about women. I know you're not dead, but you're in a situation where you need to get your life together...FOR YOU. A girlfriend is only going to increase the "stress" (for lack of a better word). Persevere!! All the best.
Many live at home to save on money plus help their elderly parents. Many people live on their own and are poor because of all the bills. Or play house and have their parents pay the bills. I dated a senior math teacher whom moved back home to save.
I dropped out of college 3 years ago, but I am trying to go back. If I do go back, then that means I definitely wont be able to leave home for at least another 2-3 years since I will have to pay for school. I'm in a tough spot.
You wouldn't be in a tough spot if you got back into school. It's normal to live at home while in school. Some of the women in school live at home, too. If I were you, I'd do everything possible to get back in school. It could help your social life, and would definitely move you toward a better-paying job.
I dropped out of college 3 years ago, but I am trying to go back. If I do go back, then that means I definitely wont be able to leave home for at least another 2-3 years since I will have to pay for school. I'm in a tough spot.
I had a friend who dropped out and he only had like 15 credits left to graduate and I have been unable to convince him to go back, its kinda a shame. He is dealing with bottom of the barrel bosses and I have never had to "work" a day in my life because I love what I do, yea college was a night mare but after college I never had to deal with any drudgery or drama.
I have my own place; It wouldn't be a dealbreaker in and of itself because there are good reasons people live at home. However, I'd be wary of someone who had never lived alone/with roommates outside of a college dorm because there are skills that people learn when they don't live with their parents that I think are important and that get more important the older you get.
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I've never dated someone who lived at home, so I don't know what that would be like.
Can't say I would or wouldn't date them solely for this reason,
because I don't have experiences of it to reflect upon & consider.
I just don't know, at this point-so I can't be definite about the issue.
eh, it is a place to live for whatever reason they choose to live there. My Uncle did not move out of my Grandparents home until he was about 32, my brother lives with my Mother and has for years. He is a bachelor and will more than likely never marry and it works well for them. She is 72 and not in good health so he is there with her when she needs him I live in a different state and a 5 hour drive away from them so it helps me as well. My girlfriend's kids did not move out until they were in their mid to late 20's. They worked but preferred to live at home and paid rent as well as taking care of household chores. Whatever someone chooses is right for them is what they choose and as long as all involved are happy with the arrangements it should be no one else's concern or business.
I'm 27 years old and have left my parents' home ever since I was 19 (starting with university), with periodical "returns" at the time, but have permanently left home for years already and lived on the other side of the globe for over 2 years. I'm living in another town as well.
And here's my opinion to you, OP. If you're saving money - good for you. You're saving it for yourself and it's good to support the household you live in from time to time. Living within your abilities is a good thing. Living above your capabilities is NOT a good thing and not a sign of any maturity. Learn some basic skills to run a place on your own. I regretted not knowing it when I was 19 y/o so I had to learn and demand to be shown how to do certain things... sometimes parents consider that you'll be a baby your whole life and that's a bad thing. I actually thought that washing socks, ironing and knowing how to break two eggs is "knowing how to run place" but you'll learn there's more to it and it's mostly about self-discipline and I only learned it when I moved out on studies. You need that knowledge ASAP as you're 27 and you should have known at least the basics already - using dishwasher, washing machine, how to clean up sink and how to clean up bathroom, what to buy and keep the economy in tact, enough variety with food, especially cooked food, etc. Running a house isn't just renting the place.
Once you learn the basics and save up enough money - it generally doesn't matter where you live. I.e. I'd probably move into with my other brother to save up costs and have someone to live with, if only we were close. And I think that this forum will give you completely wrong insight on your issue - I think about HALF U.S. guys at your age are still with their parents or they "live away" but depend even heavier (i.e. they are studying and are getting money from their parents, living in a place rented by their parents' money, etc).
Moving in with your potential girlfriend? I don't know... I'm not the type who supports cohabitation, it might have been different if you know each other for a long time and is just a matter of weeks (or maybe some months) before you officially marry. I'm really not into cohabitation with someone I've dated for a few weeks but lots of young folks in today's age are actually choosing this option. You need to know that I'm more of a "reserved" type on certain issues. However, if your date expects you to have a separate place just like her and doesn't consider on dating you or cohabiting in her place - just move on. You don't need such girlfriend and you don't need to move out and do something that defies your logic just to "keep up with her". There are plenty of people who will actually appreciate a guy who's carefully watches to avoid wasting money when he doesn't have to.
It would depend on why he is still at home, and whether he has the rest of his life in order in an adult sense. For instance if he has never had a girlfriend and was a virgin, that would make me wonder if he had a severe case of arrested development.
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