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Old 06-14-2013, 07:19 AM
 
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Just wondering if its possible to date a woman if she has her own place and the guy still lives at home. I ask this because I am 27 years old and still live at home. I have a full time job but dont make enough to live on my own. The vast majority of women around my age probably live on their own so my situation puts me at a huge disadvantage.
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:23 AM
 
Location: Columbia, South Carolina
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I don't believe it's against the law to date a woman who lives alone while you live at home.



But why can't you find a job that lets you move out? Should you consider going back to school? Getting a better job?
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:23 AM
 
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I'm 27. I am pretty strict about not dating men who still live at home because of disastrous past relationships with the same scenario. I would however consider it ONLY IF he was in grad school or getting his Phd, taking care of sick or elderly parents, or if he had lived on his own at some point and was saving to buy a home.
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:23 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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You can, but I'd be working on finding a way to be able to afford to live on my own if I were you.
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Old 06-14-2013, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Midwest
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I dated someone who was 27 and lived at home to save $$ for a down payment. Once we were dating more serious he bought a condo and moved out. However, I was still in school so I really didn't care. If I had my own place and he was still at home at 27; I'd encourage him to move out. Although it would never be a question as to who's place your going to hang out at, as it would always be mine. Let me ask you this, would your parents ask where you were if you didn't come "home" that night? If so, I'd get the heck out of there.
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Old 06-14-2013, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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I have my own place; It wouldn't be a dealbreaker in and of itself because there are good reasons people live at home. However, I'd be wary of someone who had never lived alone/with roommates outside of a college dorm because there are skills that people learn when they don't live with their parents that I think are important and that get more important the older you get.
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Old 06-14-2013, 08:17 AM
 
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I don't believe it's against the law to date a woman who lives alone while you live at home.



But why can't you find a job that lets you move out? Should you consider going back to school? Getting a better job?

I dropped out of college 3 years ago, but I am trying to go back. If I do go back, then that means I definitely wont be able to leave home for at least another 2-3 years since I will have to pay for school. I'm in a tough spot.
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Old 06-14-2013, 08:20 AM
 
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It would depend on the situation and what his goals are. As a previous poster mentioned, I would have no problem dating someone who moved back home to take care of his parents. But if the guy lived at home just because he's lazy and doesn't feel like looking for a better job or improving himself, then hell NO would I date him.

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Old 06-14-2013, 08:49 AM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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I agree it definitely depends why. If it's because he's in graduate school, saving to buy a house, or helping out elderly parents then I would be okay with it. Basically if it's temporary and I can see he's motivated to get his own place and not just mooching off his family. I want to move back to my home state and I could see myself staying with my parents for a little while while I get resettled and save money to buy my own place.
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Old 06-14-2013, 10:41 AM
 
Location: North Idaho
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Dating a 27 year old man who still lives at home can be pretty miserable if he has a helicopter patent, which happens to be more likely if he is still living at home by the age of 27.

It's not the guy so much as dealing with his mother.
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