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Maybe you carry your baggage from relationship to relationship, but grown-ups check it at the door.
Jeez, there are so many people on this forum who love lying. Its literally not possible to love someone and not get baggage when it doesn't work out. It didn't work out for a reason. Whether its your fault or not, it hurt. You will definitely do things different the second time around, right? Thats baggage right there. You can sugar coat it by saying, its "experience" all damn day but its still baggage.
Jeez, there are so many people on this forum who love lying. Its literally not possible to love someone and not get baggage when it doesn't work out. It didn't work out for a reason. Whether its your fault or not, it hurt. You will definitely do things different the second time around, right? Thats baggage right there. You can sugar coat it by saying, its "experience" all damn day but its still baggage.
Please calm down friend.
Baggage, experience, what is the difference? There are lot of people learn from their experience/baggage (whatever you like to call it) there are a lot of people let those "baggage/experience" define their whole life.
There are a lot of women and men are the walking wounded. They have been hurt by people in the past and carry that psychological damage and unresolved pain and anger into the future relationships. But not everybody is like that though.
Jeez, there are so many people on this forum who love lying. Its literally not possible to love someone and not get baggage when it doesn't work out. It didn't work out for a reason. Whether its your fault or not, it hurt. You will definitely do things different the second time around, right? Thats baggage right there. You can sugar coat it by saying, its "experience" all damn day but its still baggage.
sorry, i have no baggage from any of the 5 LTR i had up until i met my wife. none of them ended negatively and things where not left to emotional rampages...there is literally nothing to hold over from them other then life experience and good times.
i think this baggage you are trying to talk about is implied that every relationship is ending in some form of disaster. which is not the case at all....just your experience
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Jeez, there are so many people on this forum who love lying. Its literally not possible to love someone and not get baggage when it doesn't work out. It didn't work out for a reason. Whether its your fault or not, it hurt. You will definitely do things different the second time around, right? Thats baggage right there. You can sugar coat it by saying, its "experience" all damn day but its still baggage.
Experience is NOT baggage. Baggage is all the stuff that hinders you from moving forward in a healthy manner, stuff that stunts your progress and development if you choose not to deal with it.
The fact that I have an ex-husband is not baggage. The fact that he's a cheating arse, so now I have trust issues (I don't actually) with every man I meet because of my ex, that's baggage.
Spoken like a young person who doesn't even know any divorced women. Trust me, not all of us have baggage. However, we wouldn't condescend to date naive and presumptuous people who make sweeping generalizations, either, so it's win-win!
I'm 59 and I'd never date anyone who was ever involved with raising children. So take that age thing and stow it. Sure, it limits the field, but who wants to wade in a mosquito-filled swamp without insect repellent?
Jeez, there are so many people on this forum who love lying. Its literally not possible to love someone and not get baggage when it doesn't work out. It didn't work out for a reason. Whether its your fault or not, it hurt.
People heal from hurt.
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You will definitely do things different the second time around, right? Thats baggage right there. You can sugar coat it by saying, its "experience" all damn day but its still baggage.
Well baggage strikes as unhealthy. If you healed, grew and learned, what you have is experience not baggage, in my view. If you remain hurt, insecure or weird, that is baggage. Just my opinion.
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