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I was in the lounge area and someone ask me did I have children, I replied with "no, I don't have any".
Another gal chimed in, I knew she was joking and said, "You can have mine, if you want some". We all knew she was joking. I said to be honest I wouldn't get involved with anyone that had children mainly because I don't want any.
"The clown", looked at me and said "It takes a real man to take care of another man's children". Than he went on to give his story about how HE married someone with children, blah, blah, blah....basically saying, I'm immature and selfish because I don't want the "lifestyle" that he has. What am I to say.
He's the same guy that brags about how HIS church pastor talks over everyone's head at church but some how he's the enlightened one the DOES understand his pastor.
I attended a wedding this weekend where this exact sentiment was expressed by the bride who was raised by her step father. It was a moving tribute she paid to him that left her and many others in the room crying. I don't agree with him browbeating you with it though but I agree 100% with the sentiment. It's difficult for men or women to take care of someone else's child as if they were their own.
Probably didn't need to say that but...yeah I'm with you, I wouldn't get involved in a woman with kids because, quite understandably, her kids come first (as they should). There are men who could deal with or embrace that, but not me. Maybe i'm selfish but if i were to raise kids I'd prefer they be my own.
I could do it but more than one I'd be reluctant. Also the woman would still want to have kids.
Maybe he is saying something worth considering. Maybe it does "take a real man to take care of another man's children". With that said, I would definitely disagree with any notion saying it takes taking care of another man's children to be considered a man.
Should have responded with "no, it takes a real man to set standards/preferences for himself, and stick with them". He probably didn't have any other choice, considering the social stigma associated with single parents.
I set mine and a lot of people here really dislike them, despite the fact, it doesn't affect their lives in any way.
Takes a real human to not take things so ****ing personally.
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If you love your woman and want to make her happy, you might.
No woman who had kids would ever be my woman.
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