This clown said: It takes a "real man" to take care of another mans children. (girlfriend, singles)
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Yes but sex wasn't involved. It's semen btw a seaman is someone who is in the navy and an E-3
I know what a seaman is but what I am talking about is seamen or the fertilizer for the woman's egg. If the a husband is shooting blanks but they want a child, the only three ways to have a child is, 1. artificial insemination, 2. adoption, 3. have someone else lay the pipes.
I would never raise someone else's kids. Not my problem.
Foster kids, orphans, kids needing adoption, abandoned dogs etc are also no individual's problem in particular, just society's. But there are people out there who will raise them. Those people tend not to see the situation as problem vs. non-problem. That's essentially irrelevant. Some blind dude wanting to cross the street isn't your problem either, right?
If you have problems supporting yourself, then I can see the problem/non-problem dichotomy as being real. But if that's not the case, it seems to me its either 1) just plain narcissism (kids have to have your genes, look like you, be some ego-lifting extension of you etc.), or 2) an indication that one doesn't really want kids period (which is fine, if you don't want kids you certainly shouldn't have them).
what i think makes some men uncomfortable -- or sick to the stomach -- is a different and more specific situation. It is being young, in your reproductive prime, having NO children, and then using your limited resources helping a single mom raise a kid that was conceived on account of her promiscuity. It is a very specific pattern of behavior that men are so vocal about -- we don't want to be used in this way, and if you don't understand that, you are incapable of understanding the male experience.
No, that is not the context here. It was a general statement, made in a general way.
As for your comments about promiscuity, that, too, is irrelevant. Your judgment calls on the nature of the conception are absolutely ridiculous. If you love a woman who has a child, it's not going to matter how the kid was conceived--former marriage, former LTR, one-night stand, rape--because an adult knows that the child had nothing to do with it. An adult who chooses to be part of a blended family does not ignore the child or treat the child poorly, regardless of the manner of conception. To do so would just be some serious douchebaggery right there, and would probably get the man dumped, regardless, because no mother worth her salt would allow a man to treat her child that way.
As I said earlier, if you don't want to be part of a blended family, then don't be. Don't date women with kids. That's your choice, as it is my choice not to date men with kids. But you don't see me getting up here blathering on about others who do. Therefore, my comment stands for anyone who thinks it's his place to cast judgment on those who make different choices: STHU.
In other words, you're going to stick your fingers in your ears to ensure that you remain blissfully ignorant of the nuances. Gotcha.
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Originally Posted by Lilac110
If you love a woman who has a child, it's not going to matter how the kid was conceived--former marriage, former LTR, one-night stand, rape--because an adult knows that the child had nothing to do with it.
Ridiculous. Nobody is blaming the child. Keep those strawmen coming.
I know what a seaman is but what I am talking about is seamen or the fertilizer for the woman's egg. If the a husband is shooting blanks but they want a child, the only three ways to have a child is, 1. artificial insemination, 2. adoption, 3. have someone else lay the pipes.
It's spelled "semen." <shakeshead />
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