She gets in bed with you; are you expected to make a move?
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I'd bet you good money I know more about dating and relationships than you.
Watching a movie with a romantic interest can be anything you want it to be.
I do agree that one might expect a certain degree of physicality, but.....
Is that not what we're talking about? Seriously, what is the deal with people reading sh*t that's not there?
OP: " I decided to respectful and not try for anything because it was only our 2nd date. Now I feel terrible like I should of at least pursued something."
"Is it weird that I had her in bed and didn't try to do anything?" No mention of sex.
In my post you originally responded to (in none of my posts, actually) there was no mention of sex.
I couldn't care less how much experience you have and I don't need your money. Anyone who jumps into bed with someone they are romantically involved with and expects not to get physical (unless explicitly stated) is an idiot. I'm glad we agree. Moving on...
Last edited by luckynumber4; 09-01-2013 at 06:45 PM..
Several friends is still far off than most all ones friends. Dating is a ton different in a 20ish year age difference.
Not really. Dating is different for different types of personalities. There are commonalities across age lines. All your experience means is that you have experience with a certain type of woman, not other types.
Is that not what we're talking about? Seriously, what is the deal with people reading sh*t that's not there?
OP: " I decided to respectful and not try for anything because it was only our 2nd date. Now I feel terrible like I should of at least pursued something."
"Is it weird that I had her in bed and didn't try to do anything?" No mention of sex.
In the post you originally responded to (in none of my posts, actually) there was no mention of sex.
I couldn't care less how much experience you have and I don't need your money. Anyone who jumps into bed with someone they are romantically involved with and expects not to get physical (unless explicitly stated) is an idiot. I'm glad we agree. Moving on...
Physicality does not equal sex. Damn.
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Not really. Dating is different for different types of personalities. There are commonalities across age lines. All your experience means is that you have experience with a certain type of woman, not other types.
Exactly.
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How old are you ruth? Have you ever considered times and generations change?
She must be considerably older...good point. Contrast that with luckynumber4 who clearly understands the politics of hooking up the modern way. She's undoubtedly much younger. There's definitely a generational gap between women who grew up pre-hookup culture vs. one's who came of age in the late 90's and 2000's watching internet porn and Girl's Gone Wild with their boyfriends (and girlfriends)
She must be considerably older...good point. Contrast that with luckynumber4 who clearly understands the politics of hooking up the modern way. She's undoubtedly much younger. There's definitely a generational gap between women who grew up pre-hookup culture vs. one's who came of age in the late 90's and 2000's watching internet porn and Girl's Gone Wild with their boyfriends (and girlfriends)
Who the hell watched that stupid ****?
If you think people didn't hook up in the 90s, you're highly misguided.
People have always "hooked up."
Particularly from the late 60s onward, there's been a hookup culture.
Not everyone chooses to be a regular part of it, and I know enough 20somethings to be assured that things haven't changed as much as you imagine.
That's right up there with thinking that your parents don't like having sex. Or did not have premarital sex. Hell, my grandparents did.
People are people.
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She must be considerably older...good point. Contrast that with luckynumber4 who clearly understands the politics of hooking up the modern way. She's undoubtedly much younger. There's definitely a generational gap between women who grew up pre-hookup culture vs. one's who came of age in the late 90's and 2000's watching internet porn and Girl's Gone Wild with their boyfriends (and girlfriends)
Missing the point, again. All I'm saying is that there are plenty of women in college and their 20's who don't participate in hookup culture. So many C-D posters love to generalize, but that' simply isn't an accurate portrayal of reality.
Missing the point, again. All I'm saying is that there are plenty of women in college and their 20's who don't participate in hookup culture. So many C-D posters love to generalize, but that' simply isn't an accurate portrayal of reality.
We were just typing about the same thing.
Truth is, it seems the OP is torturing himself over a missed opportunity.
Instead of dispensing such sage advice as "she wanted the d"...
I chose to tell the man the truth. She may have wanted to get laid, but she was JUST as responsible as him for letting that be known.
He attempted to be a gentleman. Any woman worth having a relationship with would appreciate that sort of behavior.
I guess if all he wanted from her was sex, he ****ed up.
If he was wanting a relationship, she was not an ideal candidate.
OP? Next time a girl texts you to say she thought you were disinterested? Tell her you could barely walk you were so turned on, and ask her to get together again.
Tell her you withheld out of respect alone. And that you'll gladly buy her dinner and give that "movie" another try.
Women love feeling wanted. That's really the issue here.
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Anyone who jumps into bed with someone they are romantically involved with and expects not to get physical (unless explicitly stated) is an idiot. I'm glad we agree. Moving on...
